Post # 1
I am having a tiny lunch for my family after I elope. How do I invite my grandma but not her housemates who happen to be my aunt and cousins? I don’t have anything against them, I’m just trying to keep the guest list as small as possible
Post # 2
mmkopl : Before firmly deciding not to invite your aunt and cousins, think about how awkward and uncomfortable it will be for your grandmother: after all, it’s not just any housemates; they are her daughter and granddaughters…
Post # 3
I can’t think of any way you could pull this off without causing offense or an uncomfortable situation for your grandmother. I would either leave her off the “tiny” list (maybe just the two of you and your parents) or invite your aunt and cousins, sorry.
Post # 4
As long as your grandmother gets around on her own with no issue, then I think you can send an invitation to her (and address it only to her) and then if anyone asks you any questions, you just tell them “Sorry, we’re keeping the guest list extremely tight. We’d love to be able to invite all of our loved ones, but we just can’t.”
We invited my husband’s grandmother but she wasn’t able to drive herself so we also invited her son (with whom we do not have a relationship).
Post # 5
mmkopl : If it were me, I would just send grandma an invite. Just because they happen to share a home and they are your family doesn’t mean they automatically get invited to everything as a group.
Post # 6
mmkopl : So this situation kind of happened to a friend of mine. Her mother (bride’s grandmother) was invited to the wedding but no other family. But the grandma lived with my friend and her family. She also relied on my friend for transportation so…it was very awkward for both the grandmother and my friend was very offended (she was the bride’s aunt).
I’d just really think this through beforehand.
Post # 7
mmkopl : in your other post you mentioned inviting family and *friends* to this dinner. I agree with claroquesi : and other pp. Excluding them will be awkward and create hard feelings. I would invite all 3.
Post # 8
mmkopl : You don’t need to invite your aunts or cousins if you don’t wish to invite them. I imagine your grandmother has lunch without them from time to time. If she has mobility issues, you can arrange to send someone to pick her up.
With respect to posters that suggest you should invite them to avoid “awkwardness”, it’s not clear it would be awkward. Furthermore, you shouldn’t do something just to avoid awkwardness.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
Just invite grandma.
Simple, no need for explanations