- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
My Future Sister-In-Law and my Fiance do not have a lot in common (polar opposites)… and her and I are quite different as well but I wanted her to be part of the wedding so I asked her to be a bridesmaid (which i’m glad I did because my fmil cried and thanked me and said she was so glad i was in her sons life because she knew after she is gone, i will keep him and his sister together, since they are so different…) talk about pressure 🙂 …
Since then she has given her 2 cents about everything… didn’t like the color I chose for bridesmaids dresses… when i explained why i chose that color, she told me that in her ‘professional opinion it wouldn’t photograph well… so i thanked her and send pictures of real weddings with that color dress and told her this is kinda what i’m going for. i kind of like it… and she laughed and said well whatever you want i guess… when i sent her a picture of what we were doing for centerpieces, she decided to do a mock-up (of something completely different) and send me a picture and ask what i thought of that instead… these are just a couple of examples… I have gracefully accepted her opinions as she really does mean well and she is just used to be the ‘creative/artsy one in the family… but I am also creative and artsy and rather OCD when it comes to my ‘vision’ of my wedding….
she has now asked if she can make the jewelry for the bridesmaids… initially i thought maybe but here were my concerns – we don’t really have the same taste at all but i figured i would consider it.. the dresses are 1 shoulder and i wanted to do statement earrings and bracelets so i told her what i was thinking and she said no… She told me necklaces with small earings would be better… Plus she wants me to pay her for them, which is understandable, but I planned on the jewelry being part of the gift to the bridesmaids and if i’m paying I kind of want this to reflect me and my style and something i would actually buy… I just feel like i’ve rejected every advice she’s given so far and i hate to keep doing this.
Can anyone suggest a graceful way to 1. decline and 2. something else i could ask her to do that would make her feel more involved but isn’t a huge part of the wedding??… I should mention that she is like a 1000 miles away from where we live and where the wedding will be…