(Closed) how do i kick out a bridesmaid nicely?

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

If she was going to be mad that you didn’t ask her to be in your wedding, she’s going to be even more PO’d that you’re kicking her out. 

There is no easy way to do this.  Just do it face to face and be done with it!  Tell her it’s not going to work having her in the wedding party.  If she asks why, cite your rreasons.  More than likely, she’ll know why. 

It’s like ripping off a bandaid — do it quickly.  It’ll hurt but it’ll be over with fast!

Post # 4
3253 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you kick her out of the wedding, you are likely to be terminating your friendship, so you need to make sure that you’re emotionally prepared for her to want nothing to do with you from that moment on. I seriously suggest you try talking to her about her behavior first; it sounds like you have a lot of bitterness and anger at her bottled up, but if she doesn’t know you’re upset, then there’s no way she will ever change how she has been acting. If you talk to her and she reacts angrily or refuses to acknowledge that she’s been making you feel uncomfortable, then you could tell her you feel like it’s just not working. Good luck!

Post # 6
3598 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Frankly, you don’t. She’ll cause drama if you ask her to step down. From the way it sounds, though, she’ll cause drama if you keep her on. Pick your poison and good luck!

Post # 7
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t think you should kick her out either.  You chose her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man for a reason and you will most definitely end your friendship if you do so.  People can get weird when wedding are involved, and you should think about whether or not you want her to be around after the wedding before you kick her out.

There is no nice way to do it.

Post # 8
2410 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think you should kick her out since you haven’t even spoken to her about her behaviour. Why not try to talk to her about the issues you are having with her and take it from there?

Post # 9
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

This is your day.  You shouldn’t have to be stressed about what she is doing or thinking. It’s not going to be easy, but it would be best to do it now before it gets closer to your wedding and your stressing about other things.  She is going to be mad and it may end your friendship, so you do need to take that into consideration. Good luck!

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