Post # 1
so, since i’ve gotten engaged one of my bridesmaid has been harassing me about her bridemaid dress, mind you….she has been emailing me photos of the dress at least once a month SINCE february….and my wedding isnt till may and the last of my worries since i’m currently in grad school and on my last year of clinicals.
anyways, even during my gown shopping it was all about her. when we went into the salon and i told the sales associate what i was looking for in dresses and what dresses i know looks good on me, the sales associate went through the whole store showing me dresses with my Bridesmaid or Best Man looking over my shoulder saying NO before i can chime in what i thought about the dresses. i would also, seriously be changing for less than a minute and would come out to show her the dress and she would be nowhere to be found. it was just her and i during the fttings because my sister got called into work and my mother got sick all of a sudden and couldnt come. so when i stepped out my first thoughts were where is she? instead of concentrating on my first impression of myself in the dresses. anyways, as i stand there waiting for her, she wouldnt come till maybe 3-5 min later with a pile of Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. she did this EVERY TIME i went back in the fitting room to change gowns. my other Bridesmaid or Best Man adviced me to kick her out and im honestly afraid of her bc she is really intense. actually, i think i asked her to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man bc i knew she would be mad. she never even my fiancee before. she’s done a lot more than what i’ve told but i dont wanna bore everyone.
soo…how do i tell her she is out?
Post # 3
If she was going to be mad that you didn’t ask her to be in your wedding, she’s going to be even more PO’d that you’re kicking her out.
There is no easy way to do this. Just do it face to face and be done with it! Tell her it’s not going to work having her in the wedding party. If she asks why, cite your rreasons. More than likely, she’ll know why.
It’s like ripping off a bandaid — do it quickly. It’ll hurt but it’ll be over with fast!
Post # 4
If you kick her out of the wedding, you are likely to be terminating your friendship, so you need to make sure that you’re emotionally prepared for her to want nothing to do with you from that moment on. I seriously suggest you try talking to her about her behavior first; it sounds like you have a lot of bitterness and anger at her bottled up, but if she doesn’t know you’re upset, then there’s no way she will ever change how she has been acting. If you talk to her and she reacts angrily or refuses to acknowledge that she’s been making you feel uncomfortable, then you could tell her you feel like it’s just not working. Good luck!
Post # 5
thanks ladies :)….i think she knows something is up because i’ve been ignoring her emails. yeah, err, one extra thing to add, she HATES one of my other bridesmaids and i know she will cause drama the day of. but my Bridesmaid or Best Man really didnt do anything to her personally except be a more supportive and closer friend to me. wish me luck :/ i still have to set up a time to talk to her.
Post # 6
Frankly, you don’t. She’ll cause drama if you ask her to step down. From the way it sounds, though, she’ll cause drama if you keep her on. Pick your poison and good luck!
Post # 7
I don’t think you should kick her out either. You chose her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man for a reason and you will most definitely end your friendship if you do so. People can get weird when wedding are involved, and you should think about whether or not you want her to be around after the wedding before you kick her out.
There is no nice way to do it.
Post # 8
I don’t think you should kick her out since you haven’t even spoken to her about her behaviour. Why not try to talk to her about the issues you are having with her and take it from there?
Post # 9
This is your day. You shouldn’t have to be stressed about what she is doing or thinking. It’s not going to be easy, but it would be best to do it now before it gets closer to your wedding and your stressing about other things. She is going to be mad and it may end your friendship, so you do need to take that into consideration. Good luck!