(Closed) How do I let friends know they aren’t bridesmaids?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@MissBoof:  I don’t know how to do it, but I can tell you how NOT to do it. Send them flowers to their desks with V-day cards saying “I love you so much, you’re such a great friend– but not as good as Rose and Ellen– they are my bridesmaids, not you.” <


Not a good idea.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t say anything to be honest, I wouldn’t bring attention to it, it might make them feel worse.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

THis is a touchy one, only because all of you work together. If you feel like it’s going to damage your working relationship, even if you love these girls, you might want to forego having any of them as bridesmaids just to keep the peace around the workplace. It’s hard to integrate both of those lives, and since you spend the majority of your time at work, it’s best not to damage those relationships. BUT if you foresee this being something they will get over, maybe you could assign the others special jobs, and explain that you only have a finite number of maids roles to fill, but tell them you want to honor their loyalty to you in some way.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d also ask the girls you ask not to really talk about it at work.  Don’t talk about wedding planning at work unless asked, either, if you can help it.  No one should assume she is in your bridal party, and this one girl will get over it, but it’s still best not to rub it in.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@StuporDuck:  Hahahahaha. I hope you don’t know this is the wrong way to do it from experience!!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@miss_blondie86:  I don’t. I just like to give funny responses to people to ease them out of the distress that wedding planning brings. I remember the garbage I went through with my wedding– every little smile counts.

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