(Closed) How do I let her down gently?

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 16
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Helper bee

I might be wrong in this, but in my opinion, I would be wary of working with a vendor who spends time searching for potential brides via social media (IG, Facebook, Twitter, whatever).  To me, it would indicate that they aren’t capable of bringing in business themselves by word of mouth or good reviews on established wedding sites.

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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gemabride:  A lot of photographers/videographers will do a wedding for free if you pay for their travel costs. When I was looking into them in my area, I actually found a lot who were amazing (out of my budget wish I could have them amazing) and advertised that they do weddings for free when they are so many miles away (with the purchase of their airfare and meals). It’s a win-win. They get to go on vacation or travel to somewhere they haven’t been and you get beautiful pictures!

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

If you like her work and she’s within your budget, I say go for it. Be sure to ask for what the total would be after travel costs and taxes or whatever hidden fees may be there. Whether you get print release rights (some packages are cheap, but then you have a pay per print through the photogrpaher’s chosen service).

I originally thought I’d go with a student too. Then I realized we were spending all this money on a beautiful wedding, and I didn’t want to leave it to chance. I even contacted a few recommended young “budget” photographers who ended up being super expensive!  I told them no thanks  and it was awkward because we were acquaintances, but trust me, it’s more awk for you than them. They’re used to it.

When we booked our photographers, I was surprised they were within our budget. I only contacted them because I thought they were out of our price range and I wanted to know how much they would cost to see if I could move our budget around. Lo and behold, their price was right. Sometimes things just work out.

I’d meet with her in person or on the phone first, and ask for a full portfolio.  A meeting can give you a sense of how they are as people. You have to spend your wedding day with this person/people, so you should feel comfortable!

Post # 21
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Blushing bee

You could just say your early in planning and aren’t choosing photographers yet. This way she’s not being too persistent, but you’re not turning her down in the case you decid to use her in future.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI

I’ll just add that I wouldn’t let distance scare you away too much. As a Destination Wedding bride all my vendors were far from me. I didn’t get a chance to meet any of them face to face or get an engagement shoot. My photographer ended up being amazing. I know the situation is a bit different because your potential photographer wouldn’t be local to your wedding venue, but I understand being nervous not meeting beforehand- sometimes it does work out well. Can you check her reviews online?

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

My husband and I are wedding photographers and honestly, if we get the opportunity to speak with a bride who is having a wedding in a new location, or somewhere we think is awesome, we always give them a deal. Try not to take her eagerness for anything other than genuinely being excited about your wedding. Trust me when I say, if a photographer is excited about a couple’s wedding day, you’re guaranteed some amazing photos. 🙂

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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gemabride:  If you really don’t want to work with her, just tell her you’ve found someone else. If she’s a professional, she’s used to it. However, I wouldn’t discredit her just because she’s offering you a deal. It’s actually quite common. If a bride contacts me to shoot in a venue I shoot all the time, I’m certainly not going to discount. However, if a bride contacts me and they’re getting married in a cool place or somewhere I really want to shoot – I am always open to give a bit of a discount or at the very least “eat” the travel costs. 

That being said – I would be concerned about if she’s done her homework on shooting a wedding in Canada. Most US photographers won’t touch a Canada wedding with a 10 foot pole because it’s so difficult to get into the country to work. In fact, I don’t know any US photographers that will take a Canada wedding because of all the issues others have had. Even if you try to come in as a “tourist” – if you have your gear with you, it’s a big production. They’ll look up your website, check your facebook, go through emails, etc – just to make sure you aren’t there to work. 

 

Post # 28
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Blushing bee

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gemabride: No matter who you end up going with, don’t forget to check places like tineye.com and StopStealingPhotos.com. It’s a great way to make sure that your photographer and their work are legit. And don’t forget to check reviews on more than one website =) I started with a list of about 14 potential photographers and then whittled it down after running everyone through those two sites above, then ProjectWedding.com, TheKnot.com, Better Business Bureau, and their Facebook pages (What can I say, I’m thorough!) Best of luck to you, I hope you get wonderful pictures!

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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starfish0116:  You took the words right out of my mouth. The Canada/US border is one of the strictest, and there’s no way of doing it legally. I wouldn’t even consider shooting a wedding in the states, not worth the risk of getting deported. 

In regards to everything else, there are a LOT of incredible photographers in Toronto, and the rest of Canada. Wedding Photography is not cheap, but you’re paying for their expertise and creative eye. Any ‘photographer’ can capture how something looks, but a great photographer captures how it feels 🙂

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