(Closed) How do I let my coworkers know they are not invited to my wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Just don’t give them inviations. That way they should know there not invited. i to work in a small office but. i like my private life private from work.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m planning on having a pot-luck reception for people that can’t attend the real thing. Play the wedding video, and supply the left over booze! That’s how my co-workers will be incorporated.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Considering they ask and inquire I would just tell them upfront, that your guestlist was limited & that between you and your Fiance ya’ll reached your max.

I know that it’s all women but I think getting “snuffed” and just not getting an invite would cause more problems then just telling them.

We had to do the same with the people we go to church with.. we’re all highly involved in volunteering (see each other 1/2 times a week) but there just wasn’t any way to invite all 150 of them. lol.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Just don’t bring it up and then when asked, just say you are having an “intimate, wedding with just family and close friends.”

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

tell them you’re so excited about your wedding and you’ll make sure to bring in pictures!!! act really excited and ignore them if they give pouty faces. keep up your excitement.

 

If they say something about coming. Say “OMG i wish. my parents would kill me”

 

done and done

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I also work in a small office and have been feeling weird about not inviting my coworkers.  I just let them know that it is a small wedding and we only invited our closest friends and family.  We are shooting for 75 and invited 93.  We are also considering doing something after the wedding to invite people that we would have loved to include, but just didn’t have room.  If we did that our coworkers would be included.  

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Do they already know you are having a large wedding?  If not you can just casually mention it is for close family and friends only.  Hopefully that will get the hint across and they won’t get their hopes up. 

If your wedding is still a while away and you do happen to develop a close relationship with some or all of them then you can re-visit the guest list.  Or put them on the “B” guest list and if you get several “no’s” then maybe you could send them an invite a little late.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

for the record i may be having a second ceremony in england for my fiance’s family who cant make it to the states for the official wedding. would you believe my boss said he would be there? Um, no. No you won’t. I just laughed. And that’s what I’ll do when he asks me what date it is. Laugh.

 

Unbelievable sometimes!

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Next time they ask about plans just say things are moving along…you are glad it’s just close family and friends because you had invited everyone you wanted to, it would be so much more work to do.

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