Post # 1
How do I politely tell people where I’m registered? We are having a couple showers thrown for us, and the hostesses are letting the guests know where we are registered. I have also told family and close friends who have asked, and of course my bridesmaids when I gush about the Pottery Barn dinnerware I’m obsessing over. But what about our guests who won’t be at any showers? We don’t really care if people give us gifts or not. But I know that any time I go to a wedding, I always want to know where people are registered because I feel it’s always appropriate to bring a gift. So how do I let these people know where I’m registered, without coming across as greedy? I really don’t like the idea of putting registry cards in with the invitations. Should I just assume that they’ll ask me or other family/friends?
Post # 3
Word of mouth, or a wedding web site.
Post # 4
It seems to be a regional thing when you ask on the Bee. In my region/group of people I’ve never NOT had the registry information written on a shower invitation. I know this offends a lot of people pretty deeply though, so be careful if you think your guests care.
I personally would probably get annoyed if the registry info wasn’t on the shower invitation. I can see not putting it on the wedding invite but if you’re inviting me to a shower I’m GOING to bring a gift and having to track down both your info and your gift would irk me lol.
Post # 5
@murmur: We don’t put registry information on the shower invites, but typically there’s an RSVP phone number/email to the hostess, and she has all the info, so not too much tracking down required; just ask when you RSVP 🙂
Post # 5
@pinkpaperbride: This since they wont be at the shower.
f they want to know they will ask. Many people, myself included, just go to the top common registry sites and put their name in to see if they are registered there.
Post # 6
Honestly, I’ve never had a hard time finding a couple’s registry information. A quick google search of the couple’s name and the registry info pops right up.
Post # 7
@SapphireSun: good point, I guess I never thought of the alternative ways to find info because it’s always on our invites, haha!
Post # 8
I think your wedding website it a good place…and on all invitation just put something like “For more info visit our website”
Post # 9
@antsy: agreed, websites are always a great thing to reference!
Post # 10
My registr information was on the shower invite, but I also have a wedding website that everyone says is very helpful.
Post # 11
Do not put it in the wedding invitation! Irks me.
My area is bridal shower invites and word of mouth. I am not even going to put it on our website. We always bring a check as a wedding gift. Always. I never buy off the registry for the wedding, that’s what showers are for! For a wedding gift cash is king!
Post # 12
You can mention your registry website in your wedding invitation to let your guests know about your registry…….but if you don’t want to mention it in your wedding invitations…..then you have other options also …..You can print your registry website on Save to date cards or with e-post cards with the link of your website….or announcement cards…..
Post # 13
I am MOB. I created and ordered the invitations, as I am paying for and hosting the wedding and reception. The outer mailing envelope held an invitation, a self-addressed/stamped envelope for the RSVP card, and another envelope with additional information. This additional information included a card with accomodation information, another card with reception information, and a much smaller card with registry information. I have received invitations similar to this one myself, and I thought it was a widely accepted, purely practical practice. I wish I had done more research first. It turns out, the MOG thought it was tacky and should have never been included in the envelope. Her name isn’t on it….
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I put it on the shower invitation as well as the wedding website. I didn’t include an ‘accomodations’ card in my invite, it just directs them to the wedding website for that information. If people can’t be bothered to look/ask about your registry then they’ll probably just give cash. Cash is typical for wedding gifts.
Post # 15
I agree that for shower invitations, the registry information should be readily accessible. I was invited to a bridal shower about two years ago. I didn’t know the bride too well but our guys are in the same friend circle so I was invited. I was thankful the registry information was included so it was easy for me to get on the registry and buy her a gift – if it hadn’t been, by the time I would have found out, everything would have been gone from her registry!
I agree that in a wedding invitation its not really the norm (I’m in Canada) but I would hate to have to blindly search for a registry. I do hate having to call someone up or email someone and ask or wait for word of mouth through the family as to the registry though.