(Closed) How do I let the girl that thought she is MOH….

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

You may want to be careful about using your real name on the boards (and your cousin’s too!).

If you want to repost this with a new username, we can delete this original thread for you… or if it’s ok either way, that’s fine too.

Good luck!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Are you still planning to have Lauren in your wedding?  I think if you are at least having her as a bridesmaid it will be easier to deal with letting her down in the Maid/Matron of Honor department.  

Hopefully she will be so happy you asked her to be in the wedding she wont mind if she’s not the Maid/Matron of Honor.   

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

The best thing you can do is be honest with her. Explain that you love her and want her to be a part of your wedding as a bride’s maid, but that you have asked your other cousin to be maid of honor because you are much closer to her.

The only other option I can see would be to make the cousins co-maids of honor.

 

Good luck!

MissRain

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hmmm I think you just need to ask her to be a bridesmaid. She may not get upset… or has she already said something to you? Either way, don’t make her MoH just because you made a pact when you were a little girl! Is there any excuse (i.e. she lives farther away from you than your other cousin) you can give as to why your other cousin is a more convenient option?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Co-MOH’s are pretty common!  You could divvy up the traditional "duties" of a Maid/Matron of Honor between the two of them, so they don’t step on each other’s toes…

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree- be honest so you don’t feel like you’re avoiding the subject for your entire wedding planning process. I also like the idea of dividing the duties, still make her feel included and important.

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