Post # 1
We are getting married in the Crystal Ballroom in downtown Porltand, OR and this is a venue that holds a lot of concerts and is super fun. Although this is a fun place, it can also be a very formal one. Now, I am not saying that I want to have a black-tie wedding, but I REALLY do not want to see anyone showing up to my wedding in jeans and birkenstocks…yes, I said it birkenstocks.
I want to try to nip this in the bud by having it worded on the invitation…but I am not sure how to put it out there without sounding snotty. Is it best if we jsut put on there, “Semi-Formal?”
Post # 3
yeah i put “semi-formal reception to follow” on mine because i’ve seen people wear jeans to a wedding and i dont want it at mine lol
Post # 4
do you have a website? i would probably just put a note there. “semi-formal reception to follow” on the invite is a good suggestion too.
Post # 5
We put “Formal Attire” on our invitation and on the website. I think it got the point across, but… Would you beleive that someone still showed up in jeans and sneakers?
Post # 6
I never thought people would wear these things to a wedding but now I’m looking for a nice way to say don’t come in jeans too after my brother told me he was just planning to wear jeans… ugh.l
Post # 7
Knowing Portland as I do, you really need to be clear. I’d say write Semi-Formal or Formal in the invitation, so people know they have to be dressy. Semi-Formal in Portland usually means khakis, not necessarily suits, so if that’s OK with you then that’s what I would write. I haven’t even thought about putting anything on the actual invitation. I’m getting married outside in July, but in the evening. The worst I can imagine is people showing up in shorts, but I am expecting that other more knowledgable women in the family will nip that in the bud…
Post # 8
I would still be specific; you can specify on your wedding site and put weddingsite on the invite
my friend had two celebrations after an intimate wedding with just family; a friend threw her a wedding party in his posh apartment in fifth avenue the attire was formal, everyone was gussied it up it was really nice some even had an updo, but someone still didnt get the memo and showed up in gasp capri pants; the host noticed it
her second celebration was a luncheon at a dinner it was more casual but she specified no jeans with holes no tee shirts no flip flops I thought it was cute she specified but it made her point across everyone still looked nice, no one came like they rolled out of bed
you can never be too specific; semi-formal can be very vague, if youre worried specify! just put formal; its not like youre saying black tie
Post # 9
I would put formal. I had a friend think that semi-formal meant she could wear a pair of trouser jeans and a cardigan! Really!?!?! I put formal on my invitation.
Post # 10
I agree with PPs. Put Formal on your invites/wedding website.
This whole “jeans at weddings” thing confuses the heck out of me. I just don’t get it. We specfied formal as well and had people in tuxes, suits, cargo pants, and a jean-esque suit (!). While I think it’s ridiculous that someone would wear jeans to a wedding, just remember: if someone does show up in Birks and jeans, it reflects on them, not you. They are the ones that will (should) feel like fools.
Post # 11
Play it safe and use the word FORMAL ! Semi means that those people who hate dressing up, won’t and they’ll justify the Burkinstocks.. yikes! It doesn’t sound snobby.. it’s your wedding! People should respect that.
Post # 12
Thanks for all the imput bees! And MissKatelyn, you are SO right about Portland. It is one of those things that I love about living here. Some people get gussied up to go out for happy hour…and then…there are those others.
I think I will put it up on my website (once I get it up!) as well as in/on the invitation. Mayb on the RSVP card or the reception details… People in Jeans…you’re killin’ me here!
Post # 13
You can actually just put formal attire straight on the invite. This is one thing I’ve noticed between middle class weddings and weddings of the very wealthy or titled. Middle class makes it this whole secretive run around. Wealthy and or titled, right there at the bottom of the ivite usually the right hand corner states the type of attire requested for the affair. Done and done.
Post # 14
@MrsGolden2Bee: I think this is a great idea and might just be the solution to my question! Thank you so much everyone! 🙂