- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
To make a looooooong story short, right before my fiance and I started dating, my best friend told me he was lonely and I introduced him to my cousin, knowing they’d fit better than Forrest and Jenny. 2 mos later, she introduced me to a friend of hers for the same reason.
Cut to our engagement and picking our wedding party, my fi didn’t have enough male friends to accomodate my cousin as a bm. I already had my 3 best friends and my sister in, and if asked to cut one, I couldn’t have. So I said to him that the same best friend had been PROMISED spot in my wedding, 10 years or 10 weeks from then…that he meant that much to me. My very in the world best friend is also a male, and so I felt I had enough men on my side and explained to my fi that it would solve everything if my friend was on his side and his gf/my cousin on mine. He shot this down HARD. said my friend was just that, MY friend and if I wanted him in the wedding, I’d find something for him to do. The cousin I knew I could get to do a reading about what she’d done for us or something….but the best friend, I had to make him an usher with the rest of my brothers (note I say the rest of my brothers, bc I DO regard him as one).
Cut to last week…the cousin passive aggressively mentions something about it. So I come home and remind my Fiance that he was included in a wedding for introducing the bride and groom, and that she deserved nothing less than the same. And that they’ve been together 2 mos longer than us and that I would expect the same too! He finally agreed and they have taken their RIGHTFUL places in the wedding…but how do I make this up to her, to THEM?
I know it was his hurt feelings about not having close enough friends to suggest in place of mine that started this WHOLE thing with the male friend. But I owe them. There is no WAY I could be told that I don’t. and I owe her too!! BC even though I was going to put them into the wedding, I was going to put them in wedding…it wasnt in the right way.
So how do I make this up to them???