How do I not cry like a baby on my wedding day?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t really have any ideas to make yourself not cry.  I thought that I would but I didn’t really except for part of the vows so I sounded sort of funny when I talked.

Post # 4
2058 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I have beein trying to figure out how to post a thread about crying…I cry for all the same reasons to you do – add tv shows, cards, emails…Is there a trick to not crying? 

With all the crying I do – – I hope to god my photographers get the most amazing picture of my eyes right before the tears fall, you know when they’re totally filled with tears and the second you blink they fall. I want the picture of the second before you blink….HAHAHHAHHAHAHAHHAHAAH

Post # 5
5497 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I want to know the trick, too! lol. I have the same problem!

Post # 6
507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

While I did shed a few tears during the ceremony, for the most part I managed to keep it together and not cry my eyes out.

My trick? This is going to sound REALLY stupid (mostly because I think it IS really stupid), but whenever I felt the urge to cry bubbling up, I started thinking “makeup makeup makeup, contacts contacts contacts”. I’m not used to wearing contacts, having worn glasses exclusively for the last few years, but I got new contacts for the wedding. I also had my makeup professionally done, and it was very uncomfortable to get my eye makeup done with the contacts, since I’m not used to wearing either contacts OR makeup! So, in the interest of keeping my eyes comfortable (i.e., no moving contacts) and my makeup intact (i.e., no need for an uncomfortable retouching), I tried my very hardest to not cry. And it kinda worked, lol.

The mascara was water-proof, so the very few tears I actually did shed didn’t mess it up. And my contacts shifted a bit when those tears came, but they stayed in place. And I managed to not bawl like a baby =)  Though my voice did sound a bit choked up during the vows, because I was trying so hard to hold back the tears.

Post # 7
476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I have a pocket with my dress, so I’m planning on keeping a tissue in my pocket and just letting myself cry.  I could fight it, but I tend to make really weird faces when I fight tears.

Post # 8
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Whaaa! i have been thinking the same thing! I’ll be thinking “dont mess up the makeup”!!!

Post # 9
5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wish I had advice, but I don’t.  The funny thing is that I always cry at weddings, and even cry watching ones on TV, but for our wedding, I couldn’t have cried even if I wanted to…it was the weirdest thing!  So, maybe the same thing will happen to you?

Post # 10
2606 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I cry at EVERYTHING, too!  Hehe!  Now that we’re married, I want a baby SOOO badly, (but we have to wait another ten months before we can start TTC because our new insurance program doesn’t cover it for 12 months)…while on a tour of a new local hosptial during an open house, I was getting all teary while standing in one of the labor/delivery room!  So pathetic, right? 😉

ANYWAY, surprisingly, I didn’t cry during the wedding.  I cried a bunch during the reception, but I made it through the ceremony, which was my goal!  I got a little shaky during the vows because I could feel the emotions bubbling up, but no tears were shed!  It helped, for me, to look at my husband’s EAR while I said the vows.  Hehe.  It looks to everyone like I’m gazing into his eyes, but I’m NOT!  I told him I was going to do it beforehand, and he thought it was a good idea and planned to do the same.

Daddy-daughter dance?  Oh, I did I ever cry!  Maid-of-Honor Speech (by his sister, welcoming me into the family)?  I cried!  Father-in-Law’s Speech welcoming me into the family?  I cried!  Hehe…he started tearing up himself when he saw me “start to go” (as he put it) and had to kind of change the subject!  LOL!

Post # 11
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

With eight more days to go, this is a concern of mine too! I am (and have always been) such a sniveler!

I like your idea, Azula, of thinking “makeup, makeup, makeup”  and plan to make my goal to NOT cry for the ceremony (thanks for the idea, Miss Apricot)… then if I want to cry at the reception I’ll give myself permission! 

Hope that works!  🙂

Post # 12
14 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

i am scared about this too!!!!! i never used to cry when i was younger, maybe i’m making up for it now lol. i was thinking about seeing my groom before the ceremony…..just a few private moments (with the photographer there of course). but then again, i would love for us to not see each other until “that moment”….i guess it will depend on how im feeling that day………its going to be a tough decision.

Post # 13
2288 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I have the same issue, so my plan is to take cleansing breaths, relax my face, and let the tears fall. That way, they can do their thing and I won’t have that weird “I’m in pain!” look in the photos, lol.

Post # 14
651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

oh i’m sure this is what will happen to me.  i cry at movies (even ones that people say aren’t sad…cried so much at the move Up) and tv commercials too.  I’ll probably just let the tears fall so I don’t have strange faces in pictures.

Post # 15
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m a huge crier too and I’m terrified of “the ugly cry” at my wedding. I agree, thinking about your makeup will probably help to stem the tears a bit. I’m also going to see Fiance before the ceremony for photos which I’m sure will be a huge help, and I’m also going to practice our vows A LOT beforehand.

I had to do a reading for my grandmother’s funeral last summer that had a part about a bride and a groom in it (this was two months after we got engaged) and I thought for sure I wouldn’t be able to make it through the reading and would make a scene at the funeral. I practiced it over and over and over at home until I got comfortable with the words and rhythm of it and could get through 99% of it without crying, and that REALLY helped me. Not that I got all my cryinig out beforehand, but I got used to the message of the reading which really helped. I plan on doing the same for our vows. I know I’ll still cry, but I’m hoping if I can pace myself through a lot of it beforehand it’ll help a lot.

Post # 16
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I know I’ll cry! I’m worried about it too, but then I think back to ceremonies when the bride and/or groom has cried, and it’s been lovely — not a problem and nothing to be ashamed of! I agree that fighting it can make it worse. Definitely wear waterproof mascara and consider keeping the ceremony short and sweet with less of the type of stuff you know will make you fall apart.

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