Post # 1
Ok, so I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor in my cousin’s wedding in June ’14. I told her that we were planning to TTC around the beginning of the year, but we might start this month – just depends.
Now, I KNOW it’s not likely to happen the first month. But the bride just sent me the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress pick. Good news! It’s quite pretty! But it’s fitted. And if it did happen the first month, I could be about 6-6.5 months pregnant by the wedding in June.
So how do I order this dress? Do I just ask at the store when I try it on? Do I order it huge and make someone size it down for me if I don’t need it?
I KNOW there must be other bees out there who have been in this position. What did you do about the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress?
It’s this dress in black: http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_One-Shoulder-Stretch-Satin-Short-Dress-85106
Post # 3
Since it’s david’s bridal the most you have to order it in advance is I believe 6 weeks, and that’s max. So I would wait until much later on to worry about this. That gives you until the end of April and if you are PG and a few months along by then then you may have an idea of how much you might show. Or, you may not be PG by then and can just order it as is. I just wouldn’t order it for a long while at ths point.
Post # 4
If you’re trying to get pregnant… you should probably just drop out of the wedding. You’ll get cankles and hate standing up for hours taking photos, you can’t drink at the bachelorette party, you’ll be moody and tired all the time 🙁 plus everyone will be looking at you and asking you about the baby, you’re going to steal all the thunder- that poor bride!!
Post # 5
One of my bridesmaids anticipated being pregnant so she ordered her dress a few sizes big and then just had it taken in right before the wedding (she ended up being only a few weeks pregnant).
Post # 6
When is the latest you have to order? I would wait until the very end of that period to order one. I figure most brides would be accomodating on this issue. If one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man had said that to me, I would have definitely been okay with waiting. If you can wait until March or something, at least you will have a better idea. At that point, you might just order a size up and have it tailored if you need it.
I am pregnant and will be a Bridesmaid or Best Man but the wedding isn’t until 5 weeks after my due date. I did go try on a dress at 21 weeks though! Luckily the dress is higher waisted (your uterus reaches your belly button at 20 weeks normally) so my normal size it fit me when I went to try it on so I don’t see how I’ll have a problem fitting into it afterwards. Here is the one I’m wearing, http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Sweetheart-Ruched-Dress-with-Full-Skirt-F15527 . But I could see how you would have problems in that dress since it’s fitted down through the hips.
For reference, I also was 12 weeks pregnant at my wedding and my wedding dress (mermaid/fit and flare) fit fine…you really aren’t showing by then. I am quite tall though and didn’t really get much bloating until about 14 weeks. One of my Bridesmaid or Best Man was also pregnant (14-15 weeks) and she fit into her normal size (ordered before the pregnancy) but we BARELY got that sucker closed due to her huge boob growth. I’m sure it could have been altered though. She has gained a decent amount of weight, but my dresses were flowy underneath the bustline.
Post # 7
Since the dress is from DB you do have the luxury of being able to wait a little longer on the dress, probably March/April, although how long the dress takes is going to depend on the colour and size of the dress that you are looking at. I would probably call the beginning of March and see what the wait time on the dress is. However the stock colour of that dress (the one avalible in store) is black, so the likely hood of being able to buy if it off the rack, or if your local store doesn’t have one is pretty good.
What they are going to tell you: order the dress two sizes large than what you wear. I have a bit of an issue with this. First off that gives you FOUR extra inches all over to figure out what you are going to do with. Most breast growth is done in the first trimester and then picks up at the end of the third, do you think that you are actually going to go up four cup sizes? I went up only one and a bit.
The dress: that fabric is SUPER stretchy, to the point where most people actually order a size smaller than what they actually need to make the dress look good. Which is great for your situation. The dress is also very forgiving, if it is on the tight side you are probably the only one who will notice.
So in short, wait until March (unless there is a HUGE lead time on the dress), think about just buying it off the rack. If you are really worried, order one size larger than what you need, due to elasticity of the fabric.
Post # 9
You can always order a bolt of extra fabric. Since it comes from the same dye lot as the dress, it will be super easy to have a seamstress add a panel if you need more room when the wedding happens.
@secretwife: You can’t be serious.
Post # 10
@secretwife: What? This makes me LOL.
Post # 11
Please please please do not listen to @secretwife. You will be perfectly fine (I would never be like that to my bridesmaid)
My thoughts are sit down and talk to the bride (or call her) explain to her that you hope to be pregnant and that you are going to wait to order the dress until march or april to see where it goes. To my knowledge you can order a davids bridal dress anywhere from 3 months to over a year in advance so march would be great. If you do end up getting pregnant right away I would advice to get a dress about 1 – 1.5 sizes bigger than you are in March if not I would order a dress .5 – 1 size larger than what size you are in march. But if you arent pregnant in march I would just take the chance and get it a tad bit bigger just in case but you are not going to show too much by june at that point.
Post # 12
@MsJ2theZ: @MrsBot: @kes18: @Waitingbee57: @Horseradish: @PoppyH:
Thanks everyone! (Well, almost everyone ) Good idea, all around! I appreciate it. The only thing is that she’s been informed that this dress is going to be discontinued shortly here so I only have until mid-January to order or I risk just not being able to order one. It’s a bit of a crap shoot. I also thought about trying to buy a bigger one used if I can find it.
I’m going to make an appointment to go try it on and discuss it. It’s good to know how much etra fabric that leaves, and that I can probably order extra fabric if I need it.
In most situations like this, I’d take my grandma with me and take her advice about sizing and alterations since she’ll probably be the person of fixes the sizing. But my cousin (the bride!) is the only person in the family who knows our plans to TTC and I really don’t want to let it slip until we get a BFP – or I have to explain why the dress is so much bigger than I need. ; )
Also, my cousin is like a sister to me. She totally gets it, and wants me in the wedding. I actually did give her the option to kick me out and she looked at me like I had grown a second head. So I’m not worried about that – I’m excited to stand up with her on her big day!
Post # 13
@Mrs.LemonDrop: If you only have until January then I suppose I’d order it a few sizes up. Actually DB SHOULD have a fake belly you can try on and I’d do that and order accordingly. Since it’s satin (right?) it’s not going to have any give. Then you’ll want to just alter it down. Hope it works!
Post # 14
Ohh if David’s has a fake belly that would be good! But don’t forget, everything swells, not just your belly when pregnant. Since it’s going to be discontinued, I’d probably just order it a couple sizes to big and have it altered when the date gets close. It’s worth it. I hope you’re lucky and it doesn’t take you long to get your BFP!
Post # 15
@MsJ2theZ: Oh! I had no idea they’d have a fake belly. That will definitely help! Thanks, that helps take out the guesswork.
Post # 16
@Mrs.LemonDrop: Well at least I know the one near me did, a friend of mine used it when she was buying a wedding dress…… LOL. It’s kind of funny if you think about it!
Also good luck with the TTC 🙂