(Closed) How Do I Pick My Maid of Honor?!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who do I choose?!
    My sister! : (16 votes)
    76 %
    High School BFF #1 : (2 votes)
    10 %
    High School BFF #2 : (1 votes)
    5 %
    HS BFF#1 and #2 : (2 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    1177 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    There’s secret choice 4 – don’t have an MoH, just maids. 

    Post # 5
    1177 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @aenriquez311:  flip a coin, draw straws, do it alphabetically, or by height… it doesn’t really matter, don’t overthink it. 🙂 

    Post # 6
    1134 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Its def hard to choose. I ended up choosing the friend i saw the most, and lived the closet( it made picking stuff for weddings easier with her right there).

    Post # 7
    1459 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

    I’d say that if your gut isn’t telling you particularly one way or another then don’t have a specified Maid/Matron of Honor ^^ I probably wouldn’t and several friends I know that got married recently didn’t have MOHs – maybe it’s less common in the UK, IDK 🙂


    And yeah – seconding having them appear in hieght order lol ^^

    Post # 8
    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    If you feel like you MUST choose someone to designate as “MOH”, I’d go with your sister. Friends can come and go, but she will forever be your sister.

    That said, there are no such things as “MOH” duties. A wedding, and the roles of the wedding party, are YOUR choice. They are flexible, depending on what and how much you want. The smaller and less demanding your list is, the easier it is for the wedding party to make you happy.

    Post # 9
    514 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @aenriquez311:  I would probably pick your sister. I’m sure if you let her know what types of things she needs to do up front, she will be able to do what you want her to. And if your other maids are older and better at planning, they might be able to guide her. It sounds like your other friends are farther and it can be more stressful for both of you to have that distance. My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor she’s 20 and she’s done good, but the only thing i really needed from her was for her to get a dress and plan my shower (my grandma is helping her) It depends on your expectations.

    Post # 10
    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @geekspice:  +1, that’s what I was going to suggest.

    Post # 11
    2053 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @aenriquez311:  Choose your sister. Give her the honor and it might just bring you two closer. If she flakes on stuff, delegate whatever she hasn’t done among your bridesmaids so no one person is overloaded.

    Post # 12
    11272 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    you are over thinking this.  your moh & bm’s really just have one responsibility.  show up in the dress and stand beside you for the day. 

    most do, but they are not required to host showers and bachelorettes, go to find your dress, go to your dress fittings, help with diy projects, etc.

    the moh usually just has one additional duty, to witness (sign) the marriage certificate.

    Post # 13
    1020 posts
    Bumble bee

    Honestly, if you feel compelled to pick a maid of honor, I’d go with first high school friend. You mentioned that you have been distant from your sister as of late, and that you don’t trust her. From what you described, your second friend seems a little too laid-back for your expectations.

    But if I were you, I’d just make them all bridesmaids. I feel as if too many people pick their sister(s) as MoH just to avoid creating drama among their friends who expected to be picked. After all, at the end of the day, none of these girls will have a huge list of things to do.

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