(Closed) How do I politely ask for no wedding gifts?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

There are actually lots of post about this certain topic. DO NOT PUT ANYTHING IN YOUR INVITE about gifts. If people want to give you gifts they will. There really isn’t anything you can do about that but I think the best way would be word of mouth just let your family know. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

If they MUST give something then you can say “we appreciate your generosity, in leue of gifts you may donate to -charity of your choice-“

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Perhaps you could put an enclosure with your invites asking in lieu of gifts, please donate to x charity in our names. Perhaps people will get the gist? Then you don’t have to worry about getting gifts, people can “get” you something for your wedding, and others are recieving help from your happiness and joy!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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theatrejulia:  We were on the same wavelength!

Post # 6
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Busy bee

It sounds like it won’t do any good anyway so I wouldn’t bother. Look at it this way – if your families feel bad when they don’t/can’t give gifts, do you really want to force that on them? After all, you want your guests to be happy! 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

+1 to above poster. The people who want to give you gifts will no matter what. If people ask you can say you would prefer no gifts. And if they get you something, you can either give it away or return it if you really don’t need it!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

You could opt not to register, and when asked, suggest people buy themselves a gift. Tell them “no, really, I mean it — all we want is for you to enjoy yourself. I know you love buying gifts, so this time buy yourself something. It would make us so happy.”

Understand though, that if they give you something anyway, it’s your duty to accept it graciously. (and send thank you notes of course) (but you knew that part)

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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elienne:  I have an aunt who is crazy about gift-giving.  Seriously, she brings little gifts (and sometimes big ones) to even the most casual get-togethers, to the point where it’s awkward sometimes (“Uhhh, thanks, so sorry I didn’t bring anything for you at this random family Tuesday night dinner..”) Those of us who know her well know that she does it out of love, and for her own reasons.  Rejecting her advances is not only futile, but HURTFUL to her.  And I try to keep that in mind when “politely refusing gifts”…  sometimes guests are determined to do it, no matter what you say.  It would be more rude of you to force it on them on the invitation or otherwise, than to just politely accept what they bring.

Don’t put it on the invitation.  Send the “no gifts” message through word of mouth, and put it on your website.  Be prepared to still get gifts, it’s just gonna happen no matter what you do.  And send a touching thank-you card 

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 11 months ago by  sea.brunette.
Post # 11
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Busy bee

You could register at a store that you like to shop at, even if you don’t need stuff. Then at least you could return it and have store credit waiting. 

Alternatively, you could ask people to make a donation to a charity in you and your husband’s new name.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Getting someone a gift is really not that hard, especially off a registry.  It won’t take away from anyone having a great time celebrating your marriage.  And some people really like gifting.  Some won’t gift even if you print your registry right on the front of the envelope LOL <I’m just assuming. 

So, I’d say choose your battles and this one isn’t worth worrying over.  Let others make their choice about it.  Make a registry or don’t.  That’s all.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree with other posters but also if I were a guest that actually listened and didnt give you a gift and most other people did that would make me feel terrible. I think you need to need to nominate a charity or just accept gifts. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

If you are having a wedding with guests, you will be getting gifts. There really isn’t a polite way to say no gifts. If I were invited to a no gift wedding, so I didn’t get one, but other people did, I would feel like an idiot. Do your registry at a store you shop often, like one with a grocery section, so you can return what you don’t want/need and you can at least have groceries for a while.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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elienne:  You can direct them to my registry…problem solved. 

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