How do I prepare for a proposal?

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
10550 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

You don’t need to do anything.

Post # 3
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

If you have strong preferences on ring styles, stone shapes or types, type of metal, etc. I would make sure he knows what your preferences are.

Otherwise, just wait for it to happen! 

Post # 4
688 posts
Busy bee

Well it depends on what you want. For me, I wanted to be the one to pick out my ring and I let him know that. So he proposed without a ring and then we went ring shopping together. If you don’t care about the ring then you do nothing. If you would like to be proposed with a ring but have an opinion on it, let me know styles you like. I also let my SO know that I would like to be proposed in private as opposed to public but if you don’t care about things like that then you don’t need to say anything to him.

Post # 5
10635 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Go on living your normal life and try to put it out of your mind.

Post # 6
1008 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

The one thing I’d suggest is figure out what type of ring you want, and communicate that to him. Also perhaps discuss whether the two of you will pick out the ring together, if he’ll just take your suggestions and pick out the ring, if you’ll send him the specific ring you want and he’ll go buy it yourself, or if he’ll propose with a stand in ring and then you’ll pick out the ring together after (this is what we’re doing).

Also, try not to dwell on an upcoming proposal too much. It can drive you crazy. Manage your expectations.

If there’s something you’d like to accomplish before your get married you can focus on doing that. For example, when my SO and I first started talking about marriage I had bad credit and credit card debt. I realized I didn’t want to bring that into my marriage (especially since he has excellent credit and no debt besides mortgages). So since then (about two years), I’ve paid off my debt, have improved my credit to “good,” and I’ll be buying my first house within the next couple of months. The other thing I did was use my upcoming proposal/wedding is lose the weight I was steadily gaining over the years. So that’s what I’d suggest – use your upcoming proposal as motivation for things you’ve always wanted to do for yourself but haven’t done yet.

Post # 7
356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2021 - British Columbia, Canada

Congrats, bee! So exciting 🙂

Treat yourself to a good manicure, tell him of any ring preferences you have (setting, diamond vs gemstone, size) and communicate your thoughts on private/public proposals. Then start a new book or try a new hobby to keep yourself from obsessing/focusing too, TOO much on it – but don’t limit yourself to not thinking/talking about it casually or picking up the odd bridal magazine in the meantime.

Post # 8
709 posts
Busy bee

Practice saying yes in front of a mirror, hire a vocal coach so you can get the pitch just right, and an acting coach to control your expressions better. 

In all seriousness, nothing. Just enjoy your life! If you’re excited and want to think about it, I’d just browse the forums here. Maybe get addicted to ring photos. 

Post # 9
1599 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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corndawg :  share your idea of a ring with him, men aren’t mind readers!

I’d also look up a checklist on line to ask your partner before marriage and make sure you know the answer to them all and ask the ones you don’t know.  Dh and I did that, it doesn’t have to be serious we did it in a light hearted way, but it’s important to know where you stand on kids, family, finance etc.

Post # 10
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Just be sure you want to get married and you’re both on the same page re. homes/careers/kids etc.

To be honest, if you’re already there and talking about potential wedding dates/timescales, why wait for a ‘proposal’?  why not just agree that you’re going to get married and get on with it?


Post # 11
9921 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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sensiblesusie :  

 I do agree, seems like op’s fi would like to get on with it in a normal fashion but op is kind of problematising it. 

Post # 12
610 posts
Busy bee

Nothing really. I just made sure my nails were painted fresh when I knew it was coming. Not that it really matters as I didn’t take pics or anything but it just looks nicer when you stare at your new ring 😉 

Post # 13
52 posts
Worker bee

If you have a ring preference make that clear, or suggest that you go ring shopping together. It’s common for partners to gift a place holder ring then design or choose the final one after the proposal.

Other than that try and act cool on every date night for the next two years…!

Happy (future) Wedding Planning!

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