(Closed) How do I proceed with this???? very long, sorry!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@lindz629: Have you tried calling her?

Or could you send an e-mail to her and all the bridesmaids asking what the plans are/what you can do to help out?

Post # 5
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I think you’re getting very upset over something small. If she’s not responding to you, then just show up to the shower and put a smile on for the bride. If I were you, I wouldn’t have sent the check if you weren’t financially able to. But like you, everyone else has a lot on their minds right now with both your wedding and your brother’s wedding. You’re probably more stressed out and sensitive than normal, and I think you need to pick and choose your battles. This isn’t one to fight.

Post # 6
921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

If you talk to another Bridesmaid or Best Man I would just casually ask what was going on… without it seeming like you are annoyed at the Maid/Matron of Honor.

I get your frustration but I don’t think there is anything you can really do without causing drama Frown

Post # 7
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’d say let it go. If they need your help, they’ll tell you. Focus on your wedding for now.

Post # 9
2 posts
  • Wedding: January 2009

@lindz629:She is obviously being petty and slighting you which is why she was sure to mention your emails went to junk folder. Clearly she is classless and tacky and you do not want to lower yourself to her way of handling things. If you truly want to participate and be a help, I would suggest sending one last email address to the entire bridal party (at least one person should have the tact and decency to respond).  I wouldn’t complain or “tattle” on the Maid/Matron of Honor. Simply explain that you are excited about the wedding and impending shower and would like to know what the plans are and what you can do to help.  If no one responds then don’t give it another thought. For your brother’s sake and the bride’s sake let it be water under the bridge and thank your lucky stars you don’t have someone that miserable planning your shower!  Hope that helps and Congratulations!!

Post # 10
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Let it go. You don’t need the additional stress.  Since we sent in your portion, you’re done.  You do not need to send an additional gift @ this point as well. 

Focus on your wedding.

Good Luck!!!!

Post # 12
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Okay. Don’t get yourself worked up over it. Don’t stress out.

But listen, you gave the girl $100 and she absolutely owes you communication. You want to know what’s going on because you’ve invested in this thing, and you deserve to. If it were me, I would probably ask the brother or Future Sister-In-Law what’s going on. Don’t be angry or confrontational, just find out what the deal is.

Post # 13
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Can you call her? Otherwise, just leave it alone show up and enjoy the party it’s not your fault you offered help and she isn’t taking you up on it. Enjoy that she isn’t putting stuff onto your already full plate.

But yea, I’d be annoyed for being ignored but what can you do…

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