How do I pull off a Surprise wedding??? Help.

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 17
2480 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@prahajess:  + 1

I also don’t want to rain on your wedding parade but it does seem like you are trying to organise a huge event single-handedly and, if you dom’t like being the centre of attention, this is going to be difficult to achieve with 200 guests looking on!

If you do decide to go with a surprise wedding then I’d be very wary of telling anyone. Because secrets always get out!

It wil also be easier to achieve if you are the sort of people who regularly host or go to very large parties which are well attended and popular. Because you do take the risk of people simply not thinking that the party you are throwing under the guise of being a wedding isn’t something they’ll prioritise. Which means you may not get the people there who mean most to you.

I honestly think that a surprise wedding would be great to organise but I’d not want to do this for 200 people!

Post # 18
2531 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t know if I’d call a 200-person event an engagement party… think if I got invited to that I wouldn’t give the same gift at an e-party as I would of at a wedding – I’d be ticked off because I’d feel like now, I didn’t give enough mosey as a gift (since it’s just an engagement party) and I look like a scrooge.

This sounds like a pretty big wedding to me, surprise or not.

Why not just elope and then have a big elopment party?

This way you can save up, you don’t have to rush, you can skip the engagment party (because they really aren’t required), and you’ve essentially accomplished everythig you wanted – low-key wedding, big party.

Post # 19
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@Shonzilla:  My feelings are, if you and your Fiance hate attention, why are you planning a wedding? And a surprise wedding at that – which will potentially be quite embarrassing / awkward for you and your guests. Both during the day and for many months afterwards? Seems like a sure-fire way to draw attention to yourselves.

Why not be honest with everyone – just elope (and tell people that’s what you’re doing), and have a “reception party” afterwards. And just invite the people you actually like. 10K should more than cover that, plus you’d have help planning it. And there’d be less drama because it’s not a “wedding”.

Post # 20
1311 posts
Bumble bee

Very Mark Zuckerberg! I love the idea but wouldn’t be able to do it just because my mother would be extremely offended and pissed at me forever.  But I hope yours goes well! 🙂

Post # 21
7396 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m having a hard time with the concept of a surprise wedding. Why do you want to surprise the guests?  If it’s to keep fuss to a minimum, there are plenty of other ways to do that: have a small bridal party or no bridal party at all, plan a low-key/casual wedding instead of a formal do, and have a charity day as your hen/buck instead of a drinky drinky party (everyone goes together to volunteer on a neighborhood cleanup or whatever).  A surprise wedding just seems like a recipe for disaster as people will no-show, bring extra guests, turn up late, leave early, etc; they won’t follow normal wedding protocol since they don’t know it’s a wedding, but you’re paying for it all as if it’s a normal wedding. So you have the worst of both worlds. 

Try to figure out exactly what you wish to accomplish here.

Post # 22
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Beezooka :  did you ever end up doing this surprise wedding?

Post # 24
43 posts
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State


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