(Closed) How do I respond to this?

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
5187 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@janet.little.7:  Tell them you love the setting and it’s a dream of yours to get married there. If they can’t make it, they can’t make it. You acknowledge that it’s a destination wedding so it’s not like you’re doing it out of selfishness.

Post # 4
394 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

We got engaged in Charleston and I absolutely love it there.  Couldn’t you just say, “We really love Charleston and have lots of happy memories there, so FI and I thought it would be nice to share it with the people we love. We hope you can join us (if it’s someone who’s invited!) and fall it love with the area like we have.”   Period.  If they love you, they will understand and hopefully keep their crabbing to a minimum!

Have a lovely wedding ~ in my humble opinion, you couldn’t have picked a better place to celebrate!  Enjoy!

PS:  In honor of our engagement, we are giving River Street Sweets pralines as our wedding favor!

Post # 5
12244 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That you two are just so charmed by the place and really wanted an intimate wedding! So it made sense for you.

Post # 6
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@janet.little.7:  Sounds lovely! From my experience, most of the time when people act offended/put-off by a long drive to a wedding it’s because they think YOU’LL be offended/put-off by them not making the long drive.

If the destination and control is more important to you and your Fiance than having 400 people there (which I COMPLETELY see why it would be!) then explain that you’ll be doing it that way and IF they’d like to celebrate with you that’s great! That’s very different than, “we’re doing it 8 hours away and if you don’t come it must mean you don’t care about us”.

It’s your wedding day, your commitment. If they want to join you, great! If not, it is an 8 hour drive so no big deal — you’ll understand! No one I know would have problem with that.

And CONGRATULATIONS!! I really hope it’s a wonderful day!

Post # 7
47458 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@janet.little.7:  We knew we’d be able to have the small, intimate wedding we wanted in a place we have vacationed to several times. We love the history and architecture.

Post # 8
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Isn’t it sad how people react to other people’s wedding plans? Before I was engaged I didn’t think anything of anyone’s wedding plans negatively or positively but I sure support them in their decisions now.

I think all destination wedding brides (including myself) understand how you feel. People are very “put off” that I’m not having my wedding where everyone can attend. The important thing I like to remember is that the wedding is between myself and my fiance. I appreciate those that can make it and will be very happy to have them there but it’s not going to be thier marriage. 🙂


  I agree with everyone on here. Just tell them that it’s the destination of your dreams and it’s going to be so beautiful you can’t wait and hope they can make it!

Post # 9
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 1993

@janet.little.7:  I’m not familiar with such large destination weddings — is it typical to invite so many people and ask them to go through so much to see you get married?  It’s one thing to invite the people that are closest to you to travel to some great location….but SC in August is as hot as he!!…and an 8-hour drive means flights or two all-day drives which will mean taking time off of work…  I think you’d have less questions if you were having a small Destination Wedding — but I think you will have a great time no matter what.


Post # 10
2066 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@primrosehedge:  if anyone thinks it is “so much” to go through, they don’t need to attend. we are having 85 people come to our destination wedding in the Dominican Republic. The reason we had a destination wedding was to cut down on the number of people attending. it sounds like that was the OP’s intention too.

Post # 11
5285 posts
Bee Keeper

@janet.little.7:  Just tell people the place is special to your and your fiance which is why you chose to have your wedding there. I had a destination wedding in Cuba in April and we had 67 people join us. That is more of a trip then an 8 hour drive! If people questioned why we were having it there (luckily no one did except my cousin I didnt want to come anyways) then they just didnt come!!! it was also a great way to weed out the people you dont really want there!!

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