(Closed) How do I respond?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
983 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@gingerkitten:  Honestly, I didn’t think it looked white in her photo.  Pale, yes, but not white.  It was nice of her to ask you, but unless she’s in the wedding party, I don’t think you can control what she wears.  Good luck.

Post # 4
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Well personally I think its a fine choice and far enough from white to not be a distraction.

How close are you to her? If you guys text then I assume you’re at least acquaintances? If you’re semi close I would just be like, “ugh, please don’t hate me, but would you mind picking something else? I know its not white but the lightness is kind of bothering me” or something along those lines.

Post # 5
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’d text back and say…. No it’s not ok, I’m so sorry but the dress is so pale, I’m sure you understand.


Listen if she wasn’t on the fence about the dress, she wouldn’t have texted you.  She knows it’s not ok to wear it, she’s hoping that you can’t say “no” to a direct question about it. 

Post # 7
11418 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Since the dress is light peach and not white, I don’t think you should be concerned about your guest choosing to wear it.  I also wouldn’t be worried about light tones in your photos, as there probably already will be a lot of other white in your wedding pictures, since most men likely will be wearing white shirts, and there could be light-colored backgrounds in some of your photos.

Post # 8
1129 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@gingerkitten:  Well… since she asked you can tell her you would be more confortable if she was wearing other dress. My BestFriend asked me to wear a different dress at her civil ceremony because the FABRIC was similar looking (sort of lace-y) so yeah…

But, is she in the wedding party? I am assuming she is not, since she will not wear a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. So, she won’t be apearing in the “formal” and “more important” (please not the quotes, sensitive people) pictures. Besides, the camera with she took the pictures sort of sucks as well as the light, so I am hoping your photographer will have a MUCH better quality camera. I wouldn’t worry about the pictures.

If you asked me to wear something else (I have been, as I said) I would be sort of (silently) annoyed, but I’d look for something else, since I respect the bride.

Post # 9
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@Brielle:  +1, exactly. I know the girl asked, but I still wouldn’t want to be controling and tell an adult what to wear.

She’s an invited guest. I would say, wear whatever you want!

Post # 11
1129 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@gingerkitten:  It won’t matter, trust me! No one will notice her 😉

Post # 13
1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t think I would mind… but if it bugs you maybe ask her to pick something darker?

Post # 15
5660 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@gingerkitten:  even if it DOES no one will notice or care. Even you won’t care the day of! 

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