(Closed) How do I RSVP to this?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I also received a wedding invitation that just said RSVP at the bottom but there was no contact information, no phone number and no email address and no response card. i think some people forget to include that information

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think just mentioning the wedding to her would be enough. Something like “hey, I’m excited to see you get married!” would be just fine :). 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

double post, sorry!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

While I don’t see one thing wrong with an informal invite, it might have been nice if they could have given some guidance on how they wanted you to RVSP.

Maybe text to say yes and should you RVSP some other way?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Back in the day of punch/cake receptions and buffet style receptions, RSVP cards weren’t included (that I can remember anyway).  I actually remember my brother’s wedding, him taking the guest list and saying, “Okay 80% of this many will attend” and that’s how they planned for cake and food.

I think I would send a text and say, “Not sure if you needed an RSVP, but I do plan on attending.”  Please keep us updated – I’m curious if it was intentionally left out or whether they just forgot.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would keep the same level of formality (or lack of!)  I’d text, FB or call and let them know you’re coming… 

Maybe they just forgot or didn’t think about it, who knows!  🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

The correct way, is to respond in the same form as that in which the invitation was received. It would be pomous, not correct, to send a formal third-person-worded response to an informal note. If the invitation had come by text, you would text back your reply. If the invitation comes by phone, you phone your reply.

In this case, the correct way to reply is in a slangily-worded snail-mail response, along the lines of

“Hey Robbie,

John and I will be there with bells on to see you and Suzie get hitched. Save a cold one for me!

Neva!”

… or words to that effect.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think depending on how well you know this couple you could probably even phone them up and let them know you’ll be there.

If your having an informal wedding there’s no need for formal language -it sounds like their day is going to be alot of fun, and you can leave your etiquett book at home (but bring bring your normal manners of course).

If its someone you don’t feel comfortable calling I love jo.lee’s response -its perfect!

I sent out fairly casual RSVP’s (although I invited people to phone, or email their RSVP) and I am loving all the voice mails/phone calls I am getting about how much people are looking forward to it! PLUS, its giving me an opportunity to talk to people about what to expect, traveling and the like.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would send a cute card with a “thank you for inviting us, we’d love to attend” type message written inside. If there’s no contact address on the invite, then send directly to the couple (presuming you have their address).

Most likely, they simply forgot to put RSVP details on. It’s easily done (when you don’t hang out on a wedding forum like us).

By The Way Are you guys used to seeing an RSVP date on invites? I’ve never seen that before – just a contact name and address for RSVPing to…

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Given how informal the invitation is, I wouldn’t be surprised if they’re just doing a buffet or cake and punch, and therefore don’t really care exactly how many people are coming. 

an email sounds like a nice and easy way to respond that’s equally casual, but I wouldn’t worry about it too much. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

You should respond with same amount of formality as the invitation itself.

So… something like:

We can’t wait to party with you when you get hitched on July 16th.  Thanks for the invite, Jim & Ali Guest

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club

I would definitely send a hard copy – texts can be easily deleted, and then forgotten! Maybe just a card or something that says “Jack and I received your invitation, and can’t wait to attend your wedding!” Or something equally as informal. Plus, it’s always nice to receive snail mail 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Out of all the weddings I have been invited to only one had an RSVP card, and that was the most recent one.  Here in Australia tradionally we always replied to RSVPS with a small acceptance card.  I think RSVP Cards as well as things like Save the Dates are only becoming more common here because of the blending of cultures through the Internet.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

One thing I’d check is to make sure it’s not just a save-the-date.  I’ve heard of Save-The-Date Cards that don’t say “save the date” or “formal invitation to follow” and people think it’s an invitation, while it’s actually not.  Just based on the informality and the lack of mention of RSVPing, I would wonder about that.  Otherwise, I’d send a note or email saying you’re excited to attend and you’ll see them there.

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