(Closed) How do I say Thank You?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Angel Orensanz Foundation

OOf. That is a tough one.  Being a bridesmaid can be a lot of responsibility and also a honor, or a pain in the neck.  Recently, a very good friend of mine got married, and did not ask me to be  a bridesmaid.  I wasn’t hurt but I did wonder for a moment–when she had a moment where she wasn’t crazed with planning, she confessed to me that it hurt her not to ask me, but that she knew that I was so busy that I wouldn’t be able to realistically do it and didn’t want me to feel pressured to say yes because of our mutual affection.

I was touched by how much consideration she showed in NOT asking me to be a bridesmaid and for allowing me to be a part of her day in the ways that I could.  The super sweet message in her thank you card to me was perfect, and I think your friend will feel recognized and appreciated…  Just have a talk with her from the heart and say “THANK YOU for all that you’ve done, it means a lot to me that you have been so involved and supportive throughout this process!  Please accept this as a token of my affections, and be glad you didn’t have to buy a dress and stand around for pictures!”  Sounds like you guys are close and she is acting out of love and maybe doesn’t need so much of the recognition of being in the “party”; she will appreciate the private acknowledgement.

Congrats on your upcoming wedding–and on having such a good friend!  You must be doing something right.  🙂

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