Post # 1
A family friend who is in my Mother’s bunco group told my Mom she did wedding flowers early on in my engagement. I emailed the women and asked her about it, how she worked, what her prices were and she emailed me back something like, “I’m so excited to create something beautiful for your wedding.” I felt a little weird because she didn’t answer any of my questions and I didn’t officially ask her to do them. So a couple wks later I emailed her with pictures of things I liked and asked again for her prices and I never got any response at all. My Mom saw her at bunco and said she tried to ask her about it, but she went on a about something else. My Mom also said it’s hard to have a conversation at bunco because there are 12 other women trying to butt in.
Anyway, so I met with some other florists, because it’s getting to the time where this has to be decided, and I found one I liked and I booked her. So now I’m trying to draft an email to the other women letting her know that her services aren’t needed. I don’t want to seem mean and say, well you didn’t respond so I went with someone else, and I also don’t want to just not say anything to her either.
I’m thinking something like, thank you so much for responding to my initial email. I actually ended up meeting with a florist that really understood my vision so I decided to use her. Thanks so much again and take care.
idk what do you think? Any other ideas?
Post # 4
That sounds very nice to me. I would go with that.
Post # 5
Why can’t you not say anything at all? If she can be silent about offering her prices, you can be silent about taking her services. It can go both ways and it will actually help her understand ‘customer service’ a lot better if she wants to build on her flower arrangement business.
You are not obligated to tell her anything.
Post # 6
@Sasha2011: agreed. Then, if she asks, you can answer with what you said above
Post # 7
I would respond to her with your wording, it sounds good. It’s appropriate to respond to her especially since your Mom sees her weekly, you don’t want it to become awkward or at the very worst have this lady think (from her own imagination) that she’s doing your wedding flowers.
Post # 8
I like what you have written. Sorry she flaked on you. It really aggravates me when someone offers their services and then goes missing…
Post # 9
@Sasha2011: I totally agree with you, and I really hate sending emails like this so I considered not responding. The reason I do feel like I should send her an email is because my Mom still sees her once a month, and I don’t want my Mom to have to tell her in front of all their friends and I have known this women since I was about 7, So thats what’s nagging at me to send an email.
Post # 10
Is it possible that the flowers would have been a gift? Is that why she was all coy with the prices?
Post # 11
Are you planning on inviting her to your wedding? If so, you can tell her you’d like her to enjoy her time as a guest and not worry about working.
Post # 12
@Mollytov: No I don’t think so, she is a friend of my Mothers but not a close friend, I’ve known her since I was very young because she was my girl scout troop leader. She’s not on the wedding invite list, although when I thought she was going to be doing our flowers I was going to add her
Post # 13
I would send her the letter. Just to be polite. I hate when people don’t answer the questions you asked in an e-mail it drives me up the wall. But it sounds like this lady thinks that she may already have gotten the job, so it would be good to let her know. Or else it will end up being awkward.
The letter you wrote sounds good to me.