Post # 1
This is actually wedding related and family related….and has some stuff to do with me.
So, Shutterbug’s (My Ex-FI) Brother and SIL are celebrating their 5th Anniversary with a Vow Renewal. One of my friends is butthurt because she isn’t invited and is planning to crash the event and make a scene. (We all go to the same church, and her daughter is the Brother and SIL’s babysitter) I’m not invited either, because since the breakup, they’ve distanced themselves from me. I’m occupied on that day with a Musical that I’m cast in. Someone else from the church asked me to try to convince my friend not to crash….or to invite her out someplace to keep her away from the venue.
Although I have an issue with going places where your presence isn’t requested, I have to be getting ready to go on-stage at the time that this is all going on, and I really don’t have the time to babysit her.
I’ve already talked with her and she’s insistent on making a scene. Short of them calling the cops or having someone else do it…..I’m thinking that it’s better to just stay the heck out of it.
Post # 3
Not your problem. Stay out of it.
Post # 4
Seriously because her daughter babysits she thinks she entitled to get an invite sounds like a nutbag. If you still talk to ex fi tell him, if you don’t want to contact them I would tell the friends to tell a the paster in church and let him deal with it. She a grown adult and the fact that she would treat another member of the church that way is mind blowing to me.
Post # 5
Tell them to hire a security guard becuase you will not be available and tell them that she seems determined on making a scene.
That being said, what kind of person does that?!
Post # 6
Why don’t you give her tickets to your musical and tell her how much you’d like her to come see you perform?
Post # 7
I think your responsibility ends once you tell your friend in no uncertain terms that it would be a horrible, horrible mistake.
Post # 8
@scottsouth: That’s the first thing I thought of. But I only get three free tickets and already gave them to others months ago for other performances of the show.
Also….she HATES musicals. As much as I love them and am involved with them, her hatred is pretty much a 180.
Maybe pay for and set up a spa day at a local salon? I’ll think of something. Shutterbug’s Brother and SIL are fab people and no one deserves this from ANYONE.
Post # 9
Why is this YOUR problem?
Post # 10
who the hell makes a scene in church over not being invited to a renewal – thats crazy
anyways not your problem – let her make an idiot of herself and hopefully the cops will be called – IF she makes an scene im guessing her daughter is going to lose a paid babysiting gig
Post # 11
I think you should steer-clear of your ex’s family and anyone/anything that has to do with them. Nothing good can come of it.
Even if you do try to stop her and it doesn’t happen—just being assocaited with it in ANY way, shape, or form is going to get you some backlash.
This family seems filled with useless drama that you no longer need to be a part of (silver lining of not being a part of them now!)
Post # 12
I vote for not your problem and stay far away. Worry about your musical and let THEM worry about her.
Post # 13
Thanks for backing me up ladies on my first inclination….which was to clear out and go about my own business. And I’ll tell the person that asked me to get involved where she needs to go….this isn’t my job, and frankly….the entire situation is Shutterbug’s family’s business….not mine. Let THEM deal with it.