- 1 year ago
So my mom is constantly criticizing me. It’s almoat always about my body (No one wants to see that) or how clothes don’t look good on me, etc. If it’s not that, it’s about my boyfriend or sometimes about my apartment. (You can’t have a cute apartment) She has never visited it, btw.
Whenever my boyfriend pops in to conversation, she gets super angry and emotional or just sulks and ignores it. When they are meeting face to face , she says Hi and doesn’t go much beyond that. But she severely limits her interaction and try to be as far away as possible, ignoring and rolling her eyes. I told her He was coming to Easter and she got all sulky about it. Back in our first year of dating, she ignored it and called me a slut about the whole thing.
I’m not that overweight but she finds it necessary to bring it up all the time every time I interact with her. She criticizes my clothing and how I look like a hobo. (When in reality, I really don’t.) She keeps pressuring me to do weightwatchers and other diets
I’ve asked her to stop many many times. But she just keeps doing it.
Do I ask her to stop again and then call her out on it every time? Do I leave whenever she does it again after I call her out on it? What about at family gatherings? Do I just leave those whenever she does it again?
Today at work, she called and at a point in the convo, my black pants came up. I really like these black pants because they are comfy and I think they look good.
She was like I know you say they are comfortable but they don’t look good. They show every ripple on your body. And then She was like I know you don’t like me talking about it but they don’t look good on you. (According to her, nothing looks good on me and I should be embarrassed and concerned) And she asked if I had anything to wear to Easter and there will be pictures so don’t dress embarrassingly (like a hobo). She also asked if I picked out a meeting for weight watchers yet. This is all today.
So I’m also wondering if I address today too.
Last time I went to a movie with her was hell. With the exception of the movie itself, the entire time was filled with her criticism. I already have pretty limited contact with her and I’m thinking of not doing anymore things with her at all until she can be civil.
cutting all contact with her is not a option right now unfortunately. And my Dad doesn’t hear most of it and thinks I’m being too sensitive. He also says Parents are not friends and they are supposed to tell you these things. And that She is concerned and is only trying to help
I can go on and on with pages of things she has done. It’s ridiculous. I have super low self-esteem and body confidence from her and all the years of things that she has said or done. So much that I question if somebody actually likes ( and loves) me and my body. My boyfriend has been super helpful with boosting my confidence and reassuring me.
I’m just so sick of her knocking me down all the time. What should I do?