Post # 1
Recently OH and I have been talking about getting engaged, and I think it will be this year just from the way in which he’s been talking. He had always said he wanted to egt me a ring that was Diamond and Tanzinite as Tanzinia holds a special place in my heart. However, having looked at some Tanzanite rings I realised that I really didnt like them that much and didnt want him spending £££ on something that’s nto right. S
So after a while I confessed that I had been looking at some and as sweet as an Idea it was I would actually just like a simple diamond ring. Since then I have been obsessed with looking at e-rings on the internet and I really want to go shopping for some, not to by but to get an idea as to what I like. As much as I love my SO sometimes I question his taste and as this is a ring I am goignt o wear for the rest of my life I want it to be something I like.
But here is my issue, how do I suggest we go ring shopping without 1. Telling him I don’t trust his taste, 2. putting too much pressure on him that he must get something now.
Really in to minds about the whole thing. Advice Appreciated!
Post # 3
Before we got serious about ring shopping I waited until he took me to a mall and then asked if we could “go over and look at” the displays in front of the jewelry stores. That started the conversation on what kind of rings I liked, which expanded into a discussion on which stones (we’re both leery of diamonds because of the ethical sourcing issue) and stuff like that.
Post # 4
Could you choose 3 of your favorite styles and show him those pictures? That might help start the conversation, and he can see if he is way off on what he thought you’d like.
Post # 5
Here’s how I did it: I found some rings I liked on a jewelry store’s website. I showed them to him on the website and made a big deal about how pretty they were and said “Can we go see them in person?” and he said sure. So I guess my method depends a lot on him really being okay with going and not having to really “convince” him to go. But it worked good for me, and we went ring shopping 2 days after I showed him the rings online. We didn’t actually end up going with the rings we looked at (though we almost did) but it really opened the door that he was REALLY serious about buying the ring ASAP.
Post # 6
Fiance kept bringing up getting married and I wasn’t sure if he was serious (lifelong bachelor) so I asked him if he would like me to show him some rings that I liked. He said yes and the rest is history.
Post # 7
@RedBear: 1) You don’t have to tell him you don’t trust his taste…just tell him you want to show him YOUR taste/give him an idea of what appeals to you. 2) Through discussion, let him know there’s no pressure and this is just for future reference. The hard part though, is telling yourself that (I speak from personal experience) because once you see that beautiful ring on your finger, the waiting becomes soooo much more difficult! lol
Post # 8
I had found a ring I liked quite a bit while my brother was shopping for earrings for his gf. I decided my SO needed a pic of it and sent one. I didn’t bring it up again until he wanted to look at the cases in the mall and said ‘OH! That’s the place where I found that ring I sent you” and he wanted to check it out. They didn’t have it but research showed that the stones weren’t high quality. He’s since asked me to find rings online that I like and save them. Of course the prices aren’t online! I don’t want him to spend a complete fortune so we’re starting to move to the ‘let’s go to the store and try some on’ phase.
Post # 9
Thanks ladies some great ideas there!
Post # 10
This is how I did it:
I went to our local jewelry store and tried on a bunch of stuff in November 2010 for Christmas 2010. We both do Christmas lists for eachother, so I picked a couple of engagement ring settings, some earrings, and a bracelet. The saleswoman was so nice; she wrote everything on a wish list card for their files and gave me her card to give to him. That year, I got the diamond earrings from the list. Valentine’s Day 2011, I got the bracelet, and March 2011, he proposed.
Post # 11
@RedBear: Could you not just sit him down and say: “look, no pressure but my tastes have changed and I want to giv you a heads up or when the time comes…” I do that sort of thing so often my SO thinks it’san everyday occurance lol
Post # 12
This is how I did it…The trick is not to be pushy or obsessed haha! Impossible feat almost. But we were seriously in marriage discussion, rings were brought up…I showed him pictures of what I liked and didn’t like. He asked me what my ring size was, and I was like WTF i honestly didn’t know. I said we should go look and get my finger sized, so that we can get an idea of what something WOULD cost us once you make the decision. He’s like cool, good idea. My SO is very open and asks a lot of questions so it was easy. It’s hard to say when we don’t know your SO and would “work” for you guys. We are very open and so if you are, I’d say “hey hun, let’s go take a look at these rings because I need to get my finger sized and you can get idea of what they look like in person” or something like that…? lol