- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2009
Ok, so this might take a minute to explain.
First, I live in a small, po’dunk town where everybody knows everybody.
Most of my high school friends who have gotten married have used the same lady for their wedding cakes. She bakes out of her house as kind of a side business. She and my mom know each other (although they’re not buddies or anything), and I was in high school band with her daughter back in the day.
So, naturally, it seemed like the easy choice to have her do my cake. No muss, no fuss. I told her I wanted chocolate cake with buttercream icing and she said she only makes cream cheese icing. I couldn’t be bothered to look around for another baker, so I figured I’d give up on my wish for buttercream.
She made three little 6″ sample cakes for me to try and I got them today. They were … ok. Not great. The icing was too powdered-sugary with a sort of thick, slightly pasty texture. It wasn’t joy in my mouth.
Rewind a bit: I work part-time at a winery and one of my coworkers there is a caterer. I tried a piece of her chocolate cake with Swiss buttercream a couple of weeks ago and HOLY COW, it was delicious.
Now that I’ve tasted the first lady’s cake, I really would rather buy my wedding cake from the coworker. But it’s awkward, because she spent the time making me those three little sample cakes, AND she knows me and my family personally, because of the connections a small town brings.
But I really, really love cake, and I’m always disappointed at weddings where the cake is “meh.”I don’t want a meh cake!
So here’s my question: what do I do? And how? Do I tell her I had my heart set on buttercream and that I found someone else? Do I offer to pay her for going to the trouble of making those three sample cakes, or is that like a rude sorry-your-cake-wasn’t-good-enough-for-me consolation prize? I feel so awkward about it!!