- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
Tomorrow I am going to have dinner with my “best friend.” I have some concerns with her that I would like to talk about, and my therapist thinks it would be a good idea to talk with her about them too.
First of all, I have two MOH’s and she is one of them. She is also my Future Sister-In-Law.
The biggest problem I have with her is that I feel like she has abandoned me. I used to see her 1-2 times a week and now I see her once a month. When I see her, it is always with her fiance. She does nothing without him. She hardly ever texts me or calls me or tries to communicate. I initiate everything pretty much and sometimes she never even gets back to me. We used to just go out for dinner and sit for hours and talk and talk about everything. I hardly know what’s going on with her now. I feel like this new guy has taken my place or something. i am hurt and I want things to change.
Second of all, I am concerned she is rushing into her engagement. She got engaged a couple days ago after dating this guy a few months (not sure exactly how long because they were kind of friends with benefits first…). He also does not want kids and she does want kids and has broken up with guys before because they didn’t want kids. She has also told me some very dark things about her fiance, which makes me not trust him. I realize it’s her life, but we are supposed to be best friends, and I want to be able to be honest with her and get her side of the story. I also want to be happy for her.
How do I say all this kindly and constructively? Or should I not say some things?