(Closed) How do I tell a bridesmaid no about a cake?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I wouldn’t come right out and say that the cakes taste awful but I would say that you appreciate the fact she wants to make the cake, but you are going with a bakery. The bakery has the flavor that you are looking for. 

I know that I am going to have to go through the samething with my Future Mother-In-Law when Boyfriend or Best Friend & I get engaged.  Her best friend makes cakes and has her bake something for all birthdays, anniversaries, etc.  Yes, she makes good cake, but they are just a little sub-par to a bakery. I think if my Future Mother-In-Law pushes this cake thing, then I will just tell her to make a cake for his bachelor party or something like that. 

Maybe you can do that too? Most guys don’t care about cake.  Or you can do it with your bachelorette party, have a few drinks beforehand, maybe it will taste better that way LOL?


Post # 4
5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

That’s a hard one. I would just tell her that you and your Fiance have a bakery in mind, and that you like her sister’s work but you’ve already settled on X. 

Post # 5
4485 posts
Honey bee

Say that you already have the cake taken care of. No further explanation necessary.

Post # 6
1816 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I agree with ember78, tell her that you signed a contract/would lose your deposit.

Post # 7
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree….just say that you found a baker already. OR if her sister is coming to the wedding as well, just say you want her sister to enjoy the wedding and not stress about the cake.


Post # 8
3331 posts
Sugar bee

Yeah, I wouldn’t straight up say that you don’t like her sister’s cake.  I’d just say that that you appreciate the offer, but you already have a baker.

Post # 9
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I would say that my fiance has this favourite bakery that makes his most favourite cake ever and he really wants to get the cake from this bakery.  But, maybe she can make the cake for your shower?

Post # 10
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You know… If her sister is making cakes professionally, I think that being honest is the way to go. What favor are you doing by sugar coating or dancing around the issue. If she is making money off this, then she should be aware of the taste issue. You don’t have to be mean about it, but just say that the flavor of the cake isn’ up to par with whoever else you go with.


Post # 11
3252 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Um to save a possible fight between friends. I def wouldn’t tell her that her sisters cakes taste bad. I would just say that its already been taken care of.

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