- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I have a friend I’ve know since high school. We’ve been been friends for about 18 years. He met a girl in college (we’ll call her Jessie) while I was away travelling. I ended up meeting Jessie and hanging out when I would come home for the holidays. I ended up moving back home and soon after ended up being roommates w/ both of them. She and I became really great friends. She’s pretty much one of my best friends and one of my bridesmaids.
Well, they dated for 8 years and FINALLY got married. They’ve now been married for 10 years. About 3 months ago he came home and told her he wanted a divorce. A bunch of crap has come out in the past three months and he has in no way been gentle about this divorce. Basically be a total A-hole. He’s been cheating on her for a while, doing drugs, lying about his business he owns and selling off his assets. Apparantly he’s been planning this for a while, but wanted to make it look like he doesn’t have anything so that she won’t get anything. He’s been a jerk for a dad…. and he used to be the best dad ever, my friend used to get a bit jealous of the father/ daughter relationship they had and wished that she and her daughter were that close too. He came back about a month after telling her he wanted a divorce, said it was a big mistake and wanted to work things out. He spent the night and, well…yeah, we all know what happened. The following day their daughter tried to get in touch w/ him and he wouldn’t answer phone calls or texts. Jessie finally reached him and she asked him what was going on. Where was he after telling her he wanted her back and he wanted to work things out. He said he never said that to her, and that he was at his girlfriends comforting her because she was upset he had been w/ his wife!!!
Long story short, I don’t want him at my wedding because I want Jessie to be able to have a good time and not worry about him. I do want to contact him and say something (I’m not sure what, that’s why I’m posting) to him about why he’s not invited. Do I say “sorry you’re not invited” or just “I think it’s better that you not be their for Jessie’s sake”. I don’t really know how to put it. I’m probably going to call him tonight or tomorrow though and need some help w/ where to take this.
Sorry it’s so long, I just wanted to give a little background.