(Closed) How do i tell a good friend I will only have 1 MOH and she’s not it?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Are they equally your best friends now (regardless of who you’ve known the longest)?

I wasn’t my best friend’s bridesmaid in her wedding and it still stings. Especially after I ended up throwing her bridal shower and bachelorette party. If someone means a lot to you, I would ask them to be a bridesmaid.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

There will prob be hurt feelings especially if you are all besties. I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it and I would just ask her to be a bridesmaid in the wedding.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Is your other best friend going to be a BM? If so, I wouldn’t even mention the Maid/Matron of Honor thing. And if this helps, when my BM’s asked me what order they would be standing in (which they asked right away for some reason) I told them I was putting them in order to how long I’ve known them. Everyone was fine with that because it’s not like I was saying “I like you better”.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Your friend that got married can be your Matron of Honor and your other bestie can be your Maid of Honor, those are two separate titles? As someone who has lost a friend because of bridesmaid drama, I really think you should consider this.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

oh sorry! I was confused. I thought you only wanted one bridesmaid and she would be your Maid/Matron of Honor.

I like the idea of one Matron of Honor and one Maid of Honor!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Katherin25: Don’t even worry about them getting along or if there’s going to be drama over the title. I have found that no matter what, you can’t prevent drama. My Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister and she has had an opinion on just about everything (I don’t want to go dancing for the bach party, I dont like clubs, I dont like any dress, etc) It’s better you just let that stuff go now or you will drive yourself crazy.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Katherin25: haha yep! Me too, it just never bothered me until now lol!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Katherin25:

Crap! 10 bridesmaids.  And you want to avoid drama! lol, sorry but that’s just asking for it.

You don’t have to tell her she isn’t going to be Maid/Matron of Honor just ask her to be a bridesmaid.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Yep, I would go the route of asking her to be a bridesmaid.  She’ll get the hint (hopefully) FWIW, I have a Matron of Honor (my sister) and a Maid of Honor (best friend)  and while it works well for our situation (my sister has a toddler and a baby, so not a lot of time for planning) I can see it adding to drama, and causing tension.  Its probably better to just have one person in charge, especially if you know one of them goes on power trips anyway.

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