(Closed) How do I tell FH..

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
1438 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Tell him no one can come if yall dont do it. Or you can schedule a time to get them done, trick him into getting dress up. lol

Post # 5
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would just schedule a photo session and tell him when it is.  He’s not a child. He doesn’t get to whine.  

My approach would be “I’ve scheduled a photo session for August X. Let’s figure out what you’re going to wear.”  done

Post # 7
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Meowkers:  +1 If he’s going to whine and act like a child, treat him like one. Schedule another session and tell him you’re going. If he complains, say that you will not cancel it for some bullshit excuse. It’s just. f#$^ing pictures.

Post # 8
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

@vorpalette:  Exactly. Tell him it’s happening. Done and done. He has X amount of time to “get ready”.

Post # 9
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@hiroshymatetrastar:  ‘he made me cancel it because he “wasn’t ready”..’

um, he isn’t ready for photos, yet he’s ready to get married? I don’t mean this in a horrible way, but are you def sure he is ready for this wedding?

Post # 10
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

How is he not ready to have his picture taken?  Is he trying to lose weight or something?

Post # 12
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@wwbga:  My thoughts exactly….

Not sure how one can “not be ready” for pictures…. unless they’re losing weight or something.  Is he dragging his feet with all aspects of the wedding?  If he just doesn’t want to do e-pics…. I know that would have been a bummer to me…. but do you NEED them?  Y’all need to chit-chat and maybe sit down with a calendar and discuss a time-table as to when things need to be done/deadlines. 

Post # 13
1021 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

So, he’s camera shy? Could you practice some of the photos at home? Kind of like how people practice a speech in front of the mirror before they say it to an audience. 

Post # 14
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Is there any would you could maybe compromise on the STDs? Do they have to have a picture of you? Maybe he just really does NOT want to do engagement photos. It doesn’t mean he isn’t ready to get married, it just means he doesn’t want to do it, and that’s not necessarily childish. Engagement pics are not a requirement to get married (we never did em) – maybe he’s just trying to figure out a nice way to break it to you? You say he doesn’t hear you, but could you also not be hearing him?

Post # 16
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Fiance was REALLY not happy about engagement photos.  He’s photogenic and not shy, but he just thought that whole part was stupid and he didn’t want to waste a weekend to do them (we live in MD but the wedding is in MA and the engagement photos were in MA).  So I scheduled the engagement photos for a weekend we were going to be in MA anyway to meet with the venue (he was HAPPY to do that!) and I told him we were going.  The thing is, he had a GREAT time!  He said it was much better than he thought it would be and it was actually kind of fun 🙂

I think you just need to tell him that you need to do them by DATE so you can send out Save-The-Date Cards by DATE.  Reiterate that if people don’t get Save-The-Date Cards (people meaning his friends) they will not know when the wedding is and they will make other plans and then will not come to the wedding!

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