(Closed) How do I tell friends about my engagement?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: How did you tell friends? (or the bulk of friends)
    Facebook : (38 votes)
    43 %
    Text : (26 votes)
    30 %
    Phone Call : (24 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I sent a group text to certain family and friends with a pic attached of us right after he popped the question!

    Post # 4
    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I called my parents, grandparents, family, and close friends.  Fiance phoned his family and close friends.  Then we put it on Facebook.  I would never want our family or close friends to find out on Facebook, but it’s not realistic to call every single person you know, either.

    IMO, calling people you’re now distant with/don’t really talk to anymore (or have never even spoken to on the phone) seems a bit weird, like you’re just looking for congratulations or something.  If they see it on Facebook, and want to congratulate you, they’ll reach out.

    Post # 5
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We told immediate family and grandparents over the phone or in person, as well as close friends, then just put it on facebook. If you do want something more personal for some friends, just a text should be fine – my fiance got a text from his best friend when he proposed to his girlfriend, and we couldn’t have been happier. We certainly don’t mind finding out via text or facebook that someone is engaged.

    Post # 6
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I told immediate and close family/friends in person or email, and then just set Facebook status. 

    Post # 7
    9181 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I texted my current group of good friends, and also my best friends from college and from HS.  Everyone else found out via ye ol FB

    Post # 8
    2466 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I called each of my close family and friends by phone to tell them before I changed my status on Facebook for all my less-close friends to see.

    Post # 9
    4062 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We called the immediate family and those friends that we consider family. We texted another group and then put it on Facebook for everyone else. 

    The one thing I would caution is make sure to get in touch with all the VIP’s before posting anything online.

    Post # 11
    1304 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think I finally posted it on FB about 3 weeks after we started telling people.  We called the critical people (parents, sibling, grandma, first cousins, and closest friends, i.e. the people who wound up being in our bridal party) immediately, then we took more time to tell people ourselves before blasting the news electronically.


    Post # 12
    3092 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m pretty sure we only called my mom the night of…Fiance and I were vacationing with his mom so she already knew…then we posted on FB.

    Post # 13
    8041 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @watergirl4455:  I think that it’s fine for the bulk of people to learn via Facebook. If you’re not regularly in touch with people, it’s not realistic to expect that you’d call them.

    Post # 14
    4518 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Personally I would let people that you care about know individually. Here’s what I did:

    Family and closest friends: phone call

    Other friends I care about but am not in as close touch with (but who I invited to the wedding): individual emails

    Everyone else: facebook

    I just think it’s nice to let people know in a personal communication of some form… it makes people feel special! 

    Post # 15
    3314 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I asked this question a while ago and got some pretty good advice. I decided to send out a group email to certain friends with an overall “Life Updates from the Big O” theme and include at the very end that I’m engaged with a little story about us/how it happened. Possibly throw in some ring porn. This should not be offensive because it shows you took the time to single out certain folks. Feel free to send and address the emails individually instead of a group message (the group thing works for me because these are all sorority people so they all know me in the same way for the same reason and are used to being referred to in/as a group). Also, anyone to whom you haven’t spoken in 6+ months would be unreasonable to expect an individualized phone call for all your news. 

    Post # 16
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I’ve been thinking about this for myself as well. I’ll be getting engaged around Christmas, and I will be overseas with my SO and his family. I figure I will Skype my parents, and worse case scenario, a FB message and/or email. I will send a FB message to my three best friends (which is how we keep in constant contact now anyway), and an FB message to my cousin (who’s like a best friend to me). I’ll let my cousin and parents spread the news via phone. Then I’ll post it on Facebook after a couple days.

    I wouldn’t fret too much. Individual contact with people you are close to and speak with often, and Facebook for everyone else. 

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