(Closed) How do I tell her she wont be able to go?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You’re doing it because it fits in with what you’ve got to do to make it legal. She may, or may not understand. It’ll suck, but there isn’t much you can do. I’d let her know as soon as possible. Say you’re sorry and that you know she was looking forward to it, but you simply can’t do it in July. 

Can you have her come visit for a bit in July for vacation? You can always offer that up, as long as it works within your schedule.

Post # 5
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5428 posts
Bee Keeper

@asscherlover:  She’s a teacher, her time off is only during the summer unfortunately…

Post # 7
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443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If she is truely in it for the vacation then she can’t be too offended, she still gets to be at the first wedding! And as long as you explain why you have chosen the time you have, I don’t see how she can fault you. It is not like you picked it out of thin air. Besides this day is about the 2 of you, not the 2 of you and your sister’s family. Hopefully she will understand that.

Post # 8
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3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ve never heard of a teacher getting no vacation time aside from the summer.  She doesn’t get any sick days, personal days?  Why can’t a sub come in?

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

@MrsTVLover:  I think the wedding is at the beginning of September, the beginning of the school year and asking for a sub at that time would not be a good idea….

Post # 11
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915 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Is there anyway you could get married there without the marriage certificate from here being translated? As in, just do a ceremony there, but not a legal one?

This isn’t really to appease your sister, though, I just wasn’t sure why having it translated needed to be done before the second ceremony.

Post # 13
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

Why not get married over there first, then have the U.S. wedding afterward? Then you could do it the regular way with the affidavits, etc.

Post # 15
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433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@honeybeelove:  

Ahem, allow me to remind you that this is your wedding, not hers..so the schedule revolves around what is convenient for you. I’m sorry that sometimes it doesn’t always land in her favor but that’s the way it is. If your sister cannot understand that then she isn’t being a good family member. I’d say do what is best for you and let her react the way she wants to, it changes nothing.

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