(Closed) How do I tell him

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Put the ring back ASAP and pretend it never happened.  Then you need to decide whether you actually want to remain in this relationship or not.  It sounds like he wants a wedding and marriage and you don’t.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would be completely honest with him about it. I don’t see any reason to lie about it and act like it never happened.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@anemone681:  So all you say is ‘Hey, I wasn’t really sure if I should bring it up but you proposed to me with a ring the other night when you were really drunk. I thought we had talked about waiting a couple of years.’

Also, why do you say that the wedding may not happen now that you know he has the ring? I don’t get why having the ring is such a problem. He loves you and wants to spend his life with you. I understand that you have commitment issues, I do too, but try and stay in today.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@anemone681:  Okay but having a ring doesn’t mean you have to have a wedding. You realize that, right? Having a ring means that he wants to marry you. You could elope. You could have a super small courthouse wedding. You could get engaged for three years and then end up deciding that you want a wedding. But none of that matters today. Today you just need to talk to the man you love honestly.

Post # 10
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3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Birdee106:  I’m with you.

 @anemone681:  Talk to him!  What a hilarious story, 5 years from now.  But you’ve got to talk about it.  “Hey, remember proposing to me when you were drunk?  Didn’t think so.  What’s going on with that?”

Post # 13
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3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@anemone681:  that’s great that you two were able to talk though. It sounds like it was something he needed to get off his chest and its important that he feels like he can talk to you about anything. Just be open with him. 

Post # 14
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5002 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Definitely tell him! I can’t imagine any other solution, and I definitely can’t imagine keeping it a secret.

Post # 15
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1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@anemone681:  It does sound like an awkward conversation, but hey at least you had it! And it seems like you both arrived to a good compromise right? You have a timeline to talk about it, probably a while after that before it even happens. And he understands your point of view and wants to make you happy, but he wants to celebrate too and I find it very mature and kind of you to agree to his wishes as well! Best of luck 😉 

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