(Closed) How do I tell him I HATE that he's carpooling…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why won’t he introduce her to you or tell you her name?  That’s the only weird thing.  Otherwise, who the hell cares?  He’s saving some gas.

Post # 4
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

What caused them to suddenly start carpooling? Does your SO have a car? Why won’t he introduce you to her? That’s a little odd to me. He knows you are uncomfortable with it…what did he say when you talked about it? I mean, I get saving gas, but why didn’t he ever carpool with anyone before this lady?

Post # 5
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@HopingtobeeMrsV:  I think you should wake up early enough to see this chick because chances are you are worrying over nothing.  If you are serious about having this conversation, asking him to not carpool, you got yourself a problem.  THat being you are insecure and jealous.  And that does not make for a healthy relationship.

Post # 6
6215 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I think that this is probably saving you money and you shouldn’t be so threatened. It’s not unreasonable for you to want to know more about her or meet her though. can you elaborate on that? Have you directly asked him to introduce you because you’re uncomfortable with it?

Post # 7
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

excuse me? no introduction and refusal to tell name?

I would smell a rat too.

Post # 8
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Why not just ask him what her name is? Then ask him to introduce you. 

Post # 10
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@HopingtobeeMrsV:  I think you should play nice and try to meet her first. He probably balked because you made him feel like he had to ask permission and guys normally don’t like that. There’s really no reason to get yourself worked up based on what you’ve posted.

Invite her (and her SO?) over for dinner one night. Or just get up a little early and walk out to the car when she comes to pick him and up and introduce yourself.

ETA: Also, unless there’s more to the story, I don’t think it’s fair to say he refuses to introduce you to her.

Post # 11
656 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would wake up early enough to at least walk him out, kiss him good bye, and wave to her. There’s no reason you can’t at least know her name. That’s fishy to me.

Post # 12
11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Weird he won’t even tell you his name. I can get why he might not think it’s necessary for you to meet her – seems kind of like a let me meet your kid’s friends before they go out together type of thing, and would be a bit odd to just be taking you out to the car to meet her.

I’m sure it’s not a big deal, but the bigger deal is that you told him you weren’t comfortable, and rather than working through a solution to it together, he just went ahead and did it without even telling you. 

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