Post # 1
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Helper bee
Too Much Information obviously, lol.
Fiance generally has good hygiene practices but one thing really bugs me – he doesn’t wash his butt in the shower! He soaps up every other part of himself, except that one. I don’t get it. I asked why and his reasoning is “Water runs down there, it’s enough!”
Except it’s not. I mean, think of what comes out of there! Wiping with toilet paper simply isn’t enough!
Sometimes there’s a slight……odor……from that area, not always but enough to make me want to say something. But how do you actually say those words!? I don’t want to embarrass him but come on, don’t 30 year old men know they have to wash that area?!
Post # 3
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Newbee
lol. I think you are more sensitive than I would be with this issue. I would just tell my husband, ” Make sure you wash your bum!” in a friendly manner, before he steps into the shower.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
@Killingmesoftly: I’d say something like this too.
I’ve told DH bluntly to go put deoderant on, or brush his teeth. It’s no biggie.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
If you shower together just run the soap bar through like swiping a credit card, haha. Seriously though, tell him that he needs to wash his butt. He’s an adult, he should know. Ask him if he would consider himself clean if he just hopped in the shower, let the water run over him and then jump out, since that’s basically what he’s doing with that area. I’ve had to teach Fiance proper skin care routine and sometimes he’s been butt hurt about it, but he’s gotten over it and realized that it really is better.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
@MrsCreeToBe:
How about have his mom stop by and just “happen” to let him know he’s smelling a bit rank?
Make her be the bad guy
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
This is the second smelly person thread in the past 24 hours that I’ve read.
Tell him if he doesn’t wash his ass, you’re not going to wash yours, and see how he feels about it. Hooking up with smelly ass is no fun. Trust me. I learned the hard way.
x.x
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
@Killingmesoftly: I was gonna say something like this too! lol
Fiance and I don’t have much shame when it comes to stuff like this. So I would simply be like “when you shower make sure you loofa your ass with this special loofa. and use soap so you dont smell like butt anymore ya big nasty!!” and yes I would buy him a special butt loofa and present it to him 🙂 but we are that kind of couple lol idk how else to approach it since we are this way.
Post # 11
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Honey bee
Make him watch this compilation of Terry Crews Old Spice Commercials: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-m6Ua9Iqkg
Post # 12
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Busy bee
- Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings
Didnt his mother teach him how to wash himself when he was like 5? I have a vivid memory of being in the bath and my mother going over what body parts get washed when (mainly that face was first and butt was last with “cooter” being right before butt…. I cant remember where she said feet fit into that order). If you asked him once cant you bring it up again but push the issue? Say something like, “Maybe you cant tell but I can tell you that just soap running down your crack is sure as heck not enough. Lets just say there’s an odor.” Guys tend to not be quite as sensitive as us so Id just face this thing head on and then move the conversation on.
On the TP note not everyone wipes their butt the same. My dad and stepmother had a discussion over why he thinks its ok to wear his underwire for more than a day. Turns out she wipes her butt once or twice, doesnt look at the TP, and is done. So she OF COURSE has to change her underwear after going number 2. He wipes until the TP is clean. Who knew there were different ways of wiping your butt?
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
Behold!! The butt loofah has arrived!!!
:::Curtains are drawn and velvet pillow holding butt loofah is revealed:::
Post # 14
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Busy bee
- Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings
@Torrid: Love this. When did you notice the smell exactly? Were you down there? Cause if thats the case you’re being WAY way too nice. Doubt he’d like it if he was giving you some oral loving and smelled your dirty bum.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
@Beautiful Bluegrass: My ex didn’t even use TP. Isn’t that disgusting? I didn’t know until near the end of the relationship because we didn’t watch each other use the bathroom, but I did notice the smell. Let’s just say that it was one of the last “slip ups” that made me hit the road! He didn’t shower regularly…AND you don’t use TP?! I mean, pick one or the other, brother…but BOTH?
Hell naw.
Your story scarred me almost as much as my ex’s hygiene. D:
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
@Mrs. Meowerson: thats exactly what I said! a butt loofah!!!!
Sidenote: Fiance made fun of loofahs before he met me and would use the bar of soap all over. Now he’s a fresh smelling girly man that uses a loofah and mens bath gel from bath and body works lol if he is given anything else now he complains about how his skin can’t handle it. he used to be a bar soap only guy. he even has his own shower caddy thingy with all his man bath supplies!