(Closed) How do I "tell" my boyfriend what type of ring to get?

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
Post # 16
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1228 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think you can be direct.  If you’ve talked marriage, you can talk rings.  

Have you discussed how many (if any) kids you’d like in the future? Your views on disciplining kids? Where you will live in the future? How will you spend and budget money? How will you split responsibilities?  How will you deal with in-laws? What kind of career paths will you take?  What kind of lifestyle and retirement you envision?  if you can have open and honest conversations about these things, then “I like princess diamonds” shouldn’t be a big deal.  I’d slip it in to your next discussion about the future.              

Post # 18
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198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@TheGridMonster i see nothing wrong with what i said. its honest and she asked how and i simply said you dont! its an opinion. Personally unless he asks you and is not pressured to ask you what you want you simply dont “tell” him.

Post # 20
Hostess
2998 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

bakingal22:  Hola and welcome to the BEE! My now husband wanted my ring to be a surprise but I knew that was NOT going to work out because we have very different ideas of “what looks good”.  At first he was resistant but after a bit on convinving he agreed to go to some stores so that I can try on some different styles.  I am very very glad I did because I ended up liking something that I thought I wouldn’t.  I had my heart set on a cushion stone but tried it on and felt that it looked very small compared to the same carat weight of a round stone.  When I found a setting that I loved the jeweler wrote down the information so that when the time came all he had to do was present that information to them so he can purchase that ring or something similar.  (I knew he would forget what I wanted later).  I’m so glad we did it this way, he told me that he would have just chosen a simple “understated” (I HATE that word) solitare. Not my style at all. He is very classic and traditional…I am not! haha.  Better to just talk to him about it and go looking for yourself, it will be fun!

Post # 22
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972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

bakingal22:  do you know your ring size? I found it super helpful to search the boards on bee by my ring size to get an idea on what size and shape stones would look best in my finger. Also I stalked the heck out of Pinterest to get ideas on what Styles I liked. Have fun, but fair warning you will become obsessed haha

Post # 23
Hostess
2998 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

bakingal22:  Just realized this is my 3rd time commenting on your thread, haha but I just saw your update.  Don’t be so quick to rule out the round stone. They face up the largest and have the most fire so I think you get the most bang for your buck.  I went into the store saying “the only thing I KNOW I don’t like is a round stone” because that’s what my sister had and I wasn’t a fan. I found a setting with a cushion halo and a split shank band and fell in love.  Sometimes cushion stones can look like crushed ice. I really think you have to see them on your finger to know the size you are going for too (depending on his budget of course). A small finger (size 4) can have a 1ct look huge while a size 8 will have much less finger coverage.  Does that make sense?

I’m going to post a couple pics of my engagement ring for reference (and one stock photo), not because you asked but because it’s a round stone and I love it   I am a size 6.5 finger

 

Post # 25
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477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: The castle at stagecoach

if you dont know what you want but you want him to have an idea, why dont next time you pass a jewlery store say lets go in i want to look and see what they have…. and if u see something u like point it out to him and say something like isnt that beautiful?

Post # 26
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477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: The castle at stagecoach

Lily_of_the_valley:  question what size is ur center stone? i ask because i lost my rings so we are upgrading now and im going to get a 2carat stone solitare…just wondering what size stone that is not counting the halo…im a size 5 finger so it has occured to me that a 2 might look very big, but i normally dont wear much jewlery except my engagement and wedding rings, pearl necklace and pearl earrings…. so a little bit of bling on the hand cant hurt i think….

Post # 27
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35 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017

bakingal22:  Well since my Fiance and I had talked about marriage and I knew he would propose sometime, I would just show him the styles I liked, and I would also show him ones I absolutely did not like! That way he knew exactly what to pick out. He ended up finidng a ring that looked nothing like I had ever seen and I love it. He said the sales lady kept trying to talk him into other (bigger) ones and he was adament on my ring. He kept saying “No, that ring is her 100%” 🙂

Post # 28
Hostess
2998 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

glamachica45:  My center round stone without the halo is a 1.5 ct.  I think a 2ct without a halo would be a perfect amount of finger coverage for your size finger.  The 1.5 could stand on it’s own, but….if you have the money for a 2ct I say go for it! It defintielly won’t be too much bling!

Post # 30
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589 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

bakingal22:  Honestly I needed to actually try them on, what I thought I liked online I hated on my finger. Going in I was sure I didn’t want a solitaire but it was the only thing I actually loved on my hand! I’d recommend going with him to pick it out if at all possible! 

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