- anne B
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
He says i am never satisfied, and i can never make my mind up about things……but hes actually only half right, but when we went to look at our venue the other day, although i loved the room for the ceremony, i am not keen on the logistics involved for the reception….
they want 2 hours to get our reception room sorted out, as it is also the ceremony room. so we will have to go into the bar, or outside if its nice weather….. then when we sit down to eat, we only have 2 hours, then he wants to empty the room, to get it ready for his evening restuarant customers…..basically GET OUT!
i agreed to the ceremony, but there has been no real agreement to the reception, in fact the menus were missing from the wedding pack the manager gave us, i have phoned him and emailed him, but no reply to either.
we havent signed a contract, just paid £250 for the ceremony room so far…….nowhere have we signed anything about the reception.
The manager intimidates me a bit too, like when i asked for tablecloths he said ”YOU DONT NEED THEM”, Errrr its MY bloody wedding matey, dont tell me what i need…..when i said please CAN i have them, he side glanced me and said ‘okaaaaaaaaaay!’ like i was a nuisance.
our wedding is just 22 people and i get the feeling he doesnt really want us there anyway, as we wont bring in much revenue for him. and as we havent signed a contract, i really want to cancel and go elsewhere.
Today i visited another hotel by myself, a BEAUTIFUL hotel, the wedding co-ordinator is lovely, makes it easier that she is a woman i think, well it does for me anyway.
the hotel is set in its own grounds with beautiful gardens,, unlike the other hotel on the main street. it has beautiful staircases inside, and very private.
the menus are really nice, and very very reasonablely priced too, and most importantly, the ceremony room and reception room are seperate, so there wouldnt be any hangin around, and they wouldnt try getting rid of us as soon as we have eaten.
i am not at all bothered about phoning the manager and telling him i want to cancel, and can we have a refund…….if he wont refund us, then we will STILL have the ceremony there, but the reception at the other hotel, ( 1 mile away)
but i would rather have a refund and have BOTH ceremony & reception at the new place.
like i said we havent discussed the reception per say, just mentioned it here and there, and if he demands we STILL have some kind of food there then i am hoping to just tell him we are now cutting down , and having canape’s and champagne………(he surely cant hold to to ransome and MAKE us spend more)
then hold the reception at the new hotel.
I am in a muddle, because i know what i WANT to do, and i also know that my FI would also prefer this new place, but how am i goinjg to break it to my FI? and have him not say……’you always want to change things’?
I want our day to be perfect and the manager at the hotel we are booked with makes me feel like its nothing special, becuase its our 2nd wedding, its only small, and both me and FI are an older couple than usual. and if he makes me feel like that now…..how am i going to fell on my wedding day? if we stay booked at that hotel i KNOW i wont be happy, and its really made me grumpy and down over these past 2-3 days. its already having a big impact on my plans….i should be enjoying it but this is getting me down.
Do you bees have any advise that i can break it to my Fiance, without me sounding like i am a spoilt brat that has found something better ! LOL
and also what shall i tell the manager of the hotel i am booked with? the truth? that the logistics for the reception doesnt appeal to me, or that i feel our wedding isnt being given the respect it deserves.