- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
So I’m not having bridesmaids. If I was, I would only include family because I’ve often heard married women say 10+ years later that they don’t see or talk to their bridesmaids anymore and I only want people in my wedding pictures that will be part of our life throughout our marriage. So one of the many reasons I opted just not to have any was so I wouldn’t hurt anyone’s feelings.
Anyway, when I told one of my closest friends I wasn’t having BMs, she said, “what a fantastic idea!!” Now she turns around and says that even though I’m not having BMs, I have to PROMISE her that she can get ready with me in the morning on my wedding day.
I told her I’d get back to her and honestly I just don’t know how I’m supposed to respond to that. I really don’t want anyone there with me but my mom, my other female relatives, the hairstylist and the MUA.
In my ethnic culture, bridesmaids just show up at the church on time, they don’t get ready with the bride. I’ve done this for friend’s weddings so I know it’s an American tradition, but we just don’t do this and I don’t want to do it. I guess she’s always pictured herself there with me on that day and I feel really bad, but at the same time I can’t believe people impose themselves this way…. so I don’t know what to tell her without hurting her. I love her and I want her at my wedding, but I want to keep these more intimate moments of the wedding with only my family.