- 5 years ago
This is going to sound stupid and childish, but I’m going to try to explain it anyway.
So my parents had a hard time TTC, and finally had my sister. 11 years after that, I was the “oops” baby. This has lead me to automatically feel like I was unwanted. Especially now, when my sister tells me stories about how much she HATED me during the first 5 years of my life. Truly and deeply, hated me. She laughs and thinks it’s funny. Ok, now you have backstory.
When she got married, my parents paid for her wedding in full. Whatever she wanted, they paid for it. Now that I’m getting married, they have nothing to contribute, because they never thought to set anything aside for me. They didn’t want to plan ahead.
So the Fiance and I are planning our wedding around our modest budget… and this summer, my parents are giving my sister $2K so she can fly home and visit.
Meanwhile, I’m over here having been told “we cant pay for your wedding.” And watching them funnel money over to my sister.
So… I’m really upset. I’m angry, actually. I don’t understand why they seem to love her more. I can’t remember the last time my parents gave me money. Literally. I cannot.remember. because it was probably more than 2-3 years ago. Nothing on birthdays. Nothing on Christmas.
I want to talk to my mom about this. How I feel like the mistake. How I feel like they love her more. How angry I am that they cant help me out any, but at the drop of a hat, they throw money at my sister.
I don’t want them to feel bad because they’re not rich, but I do think they should feel bad for nothing being more equal and fair. For not planning ahead. Not having the balls to tell my older sister to f*ck off and pay for her own god damn plane ticket because she’s almost 40 years old now and should be able to pay her own way.
Any… thoughts? :