- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Hello ladies! (and the few gentlemen that are out there)
I wanted to get some advice on how to broach the subject of (drumroll please) telling my parents that I am engaged. I am Korean, and he is Caucasian. My parents, who are back in Korea, have said numerous times that I should “date anyone want, but marry someone [they] want,” which I kind of laughed off, until I got to college and started dating a caucasian boyfriend (not my current fiance).
I kid you not, the sh*tstorm of the century went down when I informed them that I had a caucasian boyfriend – they were so upset, threatened not to fly over for my college graduation, phrases such as “so disappointed”, “wish we never had you, should have had that abortion when the doctor told me”, were flying around etc etc. That relationship eventally ended, partly because of my parents.
To move on to the present, I have been dating my much older Caucasian fiance for about a year, before he proposed several months ago. I was ecstatic, as I truly believe he is the man I want to grow old with (sounds corny, but true).
Initally, I wanted to keep this from my parents, as my mother has hinted several times during our relationship that she would “disown” me and that I would make her “sicker” (she has been in remission for several years). But these are the people who have raised me and sacrificed a lot for me, and I want to be upfront with them about how happy I am.
My fiance has several strikes against him from their standpoint, being white, older, non-catholic, and a divorce (his ex-wife is a raging alcoholic). Can you please offer some guidance on how you informed your parents?
Thank you for reading!