How do I throw myself a bachelorette party? Tips? Advice?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d find it a little odd that someone is throwing and hosting a party in their own honor :/  I like the idea of having a girls’ night out, but if you say you’re hosting it does imply that you’re paying.  Saying “Hey, let’s get together one last time before the big day for a night on the town” does not indicate that you’re paying, and it also doesn’t sound like you’re throwing a party to honor yourself.

As for traditional bach party items, go for it if you want.  You know your BM’s better than we do, and if they think it will be fun & will enjoy it, there’s no harm at all 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would send out an e-vite or an FB event invitation. I think it’s fine to make yourself the hostess. However, if you are taking on that title of hostess, I think people may be expecting that they will not have to pay for anything.

If you would like for people to pay for themselves I would find some way to indicate that on the e-vite. Maybe include the cost of the bar’s cover charge or something.

I’m not sure about the bride sash and stuff. If I were throwing a bach party for myself I would not purchase things like that for me to wear but everyone is different and if you want to buy that stuff for yourself to wear, I say go for it. You could always show up with it on…..it’s not like anyone would come out and ask you who bought it for you.

If it were me, I would just label it a final girls night out before you get married. I don’t think I would label it an official bachelorette party if I were throwing it for myself. But, do what you feel is right and what works for you! 🙂

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My bachelorette party is this weekend and I and not expecting my SIL (the hostess) to pay for everything. We arent have a bridal party either so she (with my help) invited a few people to go out to a few bars/casinos and have some fun. Hopefully nothing to wild. In my opinion I wouldnt throw myself a traditional bachelorette party, it’s kinda like throwing yourself your own birthday party! So call it something else… With a cute wedding/bachlorette theme (so people know its more than a girls night out). And I think you should be okay in wearing “cheesy bride to be” stuff!!! 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Instead of calling it a bachelorette party, since brides should not throw parties in their own honor, why not just organize a girl’s night out?  Same basic idea, but without the awkwardness of telling people you’re throwing your own bachelorette party.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I assumed you were throwing yourself a party because you’re Type A and needed it a certain way (sadly, I’ve seen that before–so tragic!). But if your main reason is because you want to be sure it’s about you, I don’t think throwing yourself a party is the right way to go about it. What if some girls still don’t show up? What if they need to leave early, etc. Then you’ll feel the same as you did your graduation day.

Give your friends the opportunity to step up. Leave not-so-subtle hints! 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Meh, if you’re just going out like you would any other GNO, I don’t think it really matters what you call it.  You’re not asking for gifts or for anyone to pay your way, so I feel like not calling it your bachelorette simply because you’re throwing it has no real purpose.  I do realize I may be in the minority on that.

But then, I would have no problem organizing my own bachelorette in your case.  My friends and I don’t stand on ceremony.  FWIW, I’ve also organized my own birthday happy hours. Frown The horror!

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Legallyblondiebride:  I agree.  It is a special party – you’re throwing it for them as well as for yourself – to have a fun girls’ time before your big day.  Whatever you feel comfortable with is what you should do.  You deserve to have fun!

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@VegasSukie:  Don’t feel bad about it!  There’s nothing wrong with it if it’s what you want to do.  I’m sure lots of people do the same thing.  Nobody is going to think bad of you for doing it, in fact, they’ll probably have a blast and be really glad you did it. 

Also, I’ve known a lot of people to arrange their own birthday celebrations and nobody thought anything bad about it, including me.  My best friend did that when she turned 40 and we had a great time – she wanted to make all the arrangements herself so she could have it exactly the way she wanted it, and everyone enjoyed it.  It was a win-win!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@VegasSukie:  Sweetie, your friends sound terrible!  Why aren’t they doing anything for you???  In my experience with bachelorette parties, every girl basically pays for herself, so if your BM’s throw you a bach party it’s not like they’re paying for everyone. Can’t someone just organize something for you and then everyone divide the money equally?

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