(Closed) How do I throw myself a bachelorette party? Tips? Advice?

posted 10 years ago in Parties
Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t have any additional advice, but I wish you lived nearby so I could just throw you one!  I am grumbly at your BMs right now. 

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Your post pisses me off!  Even if you were “only” my coworker, if I caught wind none of your BMs were throwing you a party I’d do it myself!  Good for @Legallyblondiebride: and

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@Sunfire: for saying they’d throw you one if you were closer!!

Absolutely throw yourself a girl’s night out party and have an awesome time!  And if you want something to make it feel more like a bachelorette party, wear a “Bride” shirt!  Do whatever you want if it makes you happy!

Post # 34
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Luv2BeachIt:  Too bad we don’t all live closer together, lol!  What a blast we’d have.  πŸ˜‰

Post # 35
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Newbee

aww, this sucks what a bummer. hmm, being sisters means they probably feel more comfortable expressing when things are more difficult or less interesting to them than friends would probably be.

they seem a bit busy, what if you asked them if you guys could plan it together? delegate tasks? you could compose the email but have them send it for you.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Sunfire:  Yes we would!!!

 

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@VegasSukie:  Let us know how your party goes!  I’m crossing my fingers your BMs step up their game and make it an awesome night for you.  πŸ™‚

Post # 39
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@VegasSukie:  I agree. This thread has helped me so much. I decided to throw a big girls night out in the town I live in with whoever can come. We are going to go out to a new rooftop nightclub and just have a good time. At dinner with my sorority sister last night we chatted about it and she loves to plan things and just came up with a whole plan in like 2 minutes and wants to help me put it together so I feel like things are looking up. But I’m not going to let this situation keep me from having a great night out or hold it against anyone for not planning anything and it really did take this thread to help me see that clearly, so thank you I truely appreciate this thread.

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t have much to say that hasn’t been said already (lol @ the penis necklaces!) but honestly, your friends sound terrible, and kind of mean. I get that not everyone has money but to outright say to your friend who’s getting married to not expect us to do anything is heartbreaking, actually.

Post # 42
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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VegasSukie:  This is ridiculous.  Please just throw yourself a bachelorette party and do it with confidence.  If anyone thinks it’s strange then they have issues your not qualified to deal with. Have fun! Quit worrying! We don’t all have quality friends who put us first so put yourself first in this situation.  You’ll look back and won’t regret that you missed out because your friends didn’t step up to the plate. I know you can do it! Also, call it a bachelorette party! 

Post # 43
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Bumble bee

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VegasSukie:  I think it’s pretty typical these days that the bride might have to get the ball rollling herself on this stuff. Doesn’t mean you’re “hosting” I think commonly everyone goes dutch. I sent an email to my besties (not just BMs) asking who wanted to go to Vegas for a bacherlorette weekend, no pressure. We’re gonna share beds in a suite, so it won’t be super $$$ for rooms, and I promised in the email that we wouldn’t do expensive stuff. Nobody is really “hosting”, and since it’s just about getting together and enjpying each other’s company, we don’t have to plan much, just show up. YES you should totally wear a BRIDE TO BE sash or whatever other get up you would like. Don’t miss out on the chance to get free drinks all night from perfect strangers! πŸ™‚ 

Post # 44
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Bumble bee

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VegasSukie:  let me just re-cap some highlights from your postings– your sisters/bridesmaids lied about their finances and ditched your graduation so they could go to Six Flags… none of them are willing to step up and throw you a bachelorette party… you’re paying for their hair/dresses/passport fees and a plane ticket so they can attend your wedding….

AND you paid to take your family out to eat when you got engaged instead of the other way around LOL GIRL! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE STOP! These people are selfish users! parasites! what have they ever done for you??! Sounds like NOTHING! Not even a birthday party πŸ™ they’re only your sisters when it’s convenient for them, you’re buying their “love”. They wouldn’t even do any of the cheap/free bachelorette party ideas BECAUSE THEY DON’T CARE ABOUT MAKING YOU HAPPY! THEY DON’T CARE ABOUT YOU. Please distance yourself from these snakes after the wedding, I gaurentee you if you don’t reach out to them they won’t reach out to you until they need something. You don’t need that negativity in your life! It sounds like your coworker cares more about you than your sisters- surround yourself with people who love you and stop trying to ‘win over’ the people who don’t. Stop letting yourself get used, this wedding is a fresh start on your new life πŸ™‚ be selfish! tell people “No!” and remember that just because you share DNA does not mean you owe them anything! Your husband is your family now, start fresh, you don’t need that crap!

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

The OP is three years old! The situation is probably resolved by now. 

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