Post # 1
My reception starts at six. It is in a restaurant and next door they own a little cafe as well. There is a bit of a gap between the Ceremony and reception (2 hours) so if guests want to show up a bit early, I want to suggest they go to the cafe next door to relax with food and drink however this will be at the guests’ expense so do I need to say so? Or just make the suggestion and then they can work it out for themeselves??? and if I need to make mention that it is their expense, HOW do I say that without soudning rude and stingy??? thanks 🙂
Post # 3
I’d assume that if you just say “join us at a reception at 6 pm bla bla” they’d assume that anything they order beforehand they have to pay for.
Post # 4
Don’t mention it at all. Your guests will know that they are on their own until the stated time of the reception. If they choose to go to the cafe, they will also know that they are resposnsible for their own bills.
Post # 7
I agree with the people above 🙂 my wedding was held in a hotel and so people I knew weren’t staying at the hotel and might need something to occupy their time I mentioned to them (at some time before the wedding when we were talking) that the hotel had agreed they would let them sit in the bar area of the restaurant (even thou they were setting up the room for another wedding reception). Also on our wedding website ( which we used for about 10 seconds hehe) we had a list of all things to do in the area while waiting “take a walk along the beautiful swan river” etc etc (we had a few Out of Town guests so it was more for their benefit) and we mentioned “pulling up a pew in the hotel bar” too 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! I guess I am just overthinking all the little details 🙂
Post # 9
Yeah I don’t think you need to say anything other than “Reception starts at 6pm.” Just tell them it starts at 6. If they choose to go early, they can and would understand they pay for any drinks or food they get.
Post # 10
If you just state your reception time I think that is enough. Less is more…don’t put too much info about the cafe and what-not on the invitation.
Post # 11
i agree with pp. just mention the reception starts at 6.
if you mention anything else, your guests may assume that it is required and therefore, included.
don’t risk the assumption.