Post # 1
I’m trying to get my invitations together, but I am hung up on something. I cannot for the life of me figure out how best to write out my parents’ names. I am not a fan of “Mr. and Mrs. Husband’s Name”, so I really wanted to write out both of their names, i.e. “Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe,” but the problem is that my dad is a Jr. and I have NO idea how to add that in there.
“Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe, Jr.” makes no sense.
“Mr. John Doe, Jr. and Mrs. Jane Doe” makes it sound like they are not together (which my mom actually pointed out)
“Mr. John, Jr. and Mrs. Jane Doe” just sounds awkward.
“Mr. and Mrs. John, Jr. and Mrs. Jane Doe” is also awkward.
What say you? Should I just give in and go with “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe, Jr.”?
Also, my parents are paying for the majority (75%) of the wedding, but FH’s parents are contributing some also. Would it be wrong to not include them on the invitation, even though my parents are the primary hosts? Shouls I just go with “Together with their parents…” to eliminate all of this confusion?
Post # 3
You could always put your mom’s name first. I would put your FIL’s names on there too, simply because I know that before I knew all the etiquette rules, I never assumed that the parents were necessarily paying or not paying just because of their names. Just put both to be polite and so that problems don’t arrise from this.
Post # 4
Im not sure what to tell you about the Junior? That is a tough one! Do you think your Future In-Laws would be offened if they were not included on the invitation? If not I would say just leave them off but if they would be offended or you would just like a nice way to acknowledge their contributions you could word the invitation…
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe, Jr. (or however you decide to word that one)
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
son of Mr. and Mrs. James Black
blah, blah, blah….
Post # 5
Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Doe Jr.
It does make it sound like your mom is a jr but I think it’s okay.
Generally, you do not want to separate the man’s first name from his last and you do not want to write Mrs. John.
Post # 6
I agree with Toffee Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Doe, Jr. seems to be great compromise!
Post # 7
I’m going the no honorifics at all route, so just Jane and John Doe for me, but I agree that Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Doe, Jr. looks and sounds best. I applaud you for wanting to include your mother’s name on your invitation!
Post # 8
We went with “together with their families” to avoid all of this – partly because my parents are divorced and remarried and that would have been extra confusing. But no one was offended, everyone was included, and it was reallllly easy. Just a thought!
Post # 9
We just did “Together with their families” and it made my world SO much easier. And I think it’s easier and less bulky to read.
Post # 10
it actually should be
Mr and Mrs John Jr and Jane (according to Emily Post)