Post # 1
Just a warning right up front that this a major vent. read at your own risk. haha
Lately I feel like I have to repeat myself 2, 3 and sometimes 4 times when asking Fiance to do anything. Even simple directions. He either gives me a blank look, shakes his head and asks me to repeat myself, or he says ok and then hours later asks me what it was i wanted. Well, what’s worse is when I repeat myself 3 times and he still does it wrong! And we’re not talking about a stupid man here. This man has a graduate degree in an extremely complex field and advises fortune 500 companies on a daily basis about their finances! He’s telling IBM and Justice of the Peace Morgan what to do with their money but he can’t grasp the fact that you can’t use windex to clean a wood table?!
Well, today it just hit a whole other level. We talked multiple times what we wanted engraved on our rings. Like 3 or so times, we confirmed with each other what we were engraving. He just called me to tell me my ring is engraved and guess what, he engraved the wrong thing!!!! WTF I’m SOOOO irritated and upset. Not just about the ring but about the fact that it appears my words are going in one ear and out the other. Now I’m stuck with it. Of course his ring is perfect.
URGH. Thanks for letting me vent ladies.
Post # 3
LOL, my husband does this too. Usually it takes me being PMS-y and then breaking down and crying about how it doesn’t feel like he cares when he doesn’t listen. I have to reassure him that I believe he is smart too, and that is part of why it bothers me so much…
However, if you can deal by letting it slide and then venting, with minor corrections along the way, I think this is the way to go. Like I said, I have to be feeling irrationally sensitive before we can even get to the big talk with him not writing it off! 🙂
Post # 4
Omg DH does this all.the.time. It makes me INSANE. You are not alone sweetie.
Post # 5
Is it possible that he’s really stressed? I tend to get really scatterbrained when I’m stressed, so maybe something like that is up. You said he’s not normally this bad.
Post # 6
They always say men can only function with one head at a time…..
Post # 7
LOL i ask my Fiance a question and he just sits there. Then I say “did you hear me?” Then he usually says yea and still says nothing. Then i say “well, respond” and then he says “wait what?”
Drives me nuts
Post # 8
My hubby does this too…
I have learned that if it is something really important to ask him to repeat what I just asked him to do or what I was talking about. He has learned to listen better and to do most things in a timely manner. He still doesn’t do what I ask him right away, but he generally does get it done.
Post # 9
I’ve got to ask.. what did you WANT engraved and what did you GET?
Post # 10
My Fiance is like a little boy. Seriously. He has ADHD, so it is bad sometimes. I have to call his name several times to get him out of a TV trance, then, pray I can hold his attention long enough to get out a sentence. Then, he just says he’ll do it later, then never does.
Post # 11
My Fiance does this too and hes by no means brainless. I think its just a guy thing, my brothers and dad do it as well. They’re probably just day dreaming or tired, and they look like they heard you, but they really didnt.
Post # 12
I too would like to know what he got engraved in your ring…
And FWIW, it’s not just men. I have issues too, as I can’t seem to hear my husband unless he says things 3 times. He’s always saying things like:
“Honey, come get supper” “ok”
“Humm, supper?” “yup, coming!”
“Dude, your plate’s on the counter and getting cold since it’s been there for like 10 mins” “oh, what? when did you tell me it was ready?” and then I go get it. Too funny, cause it’s totally true. But I get that it can get annoying, especially if you’re asking for important things like not to use Windex on wood, or to engrave something in your ring…