(Closed) How do other wives handle this? *vent*

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 46
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

snina8916:  Great update. Glad to hear that you guys were about to talk it out!

Post # 47
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556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

snina8916:  Oops just saw your update. 🙂 Glad you worked things out! 

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

snina8916:  

Saying that there is “no chance” of pregnancy because you are taking birth control is another way of saying that the BC is full proof. That is just not true. 

In any case, I am happy that you and your husband worked things out. 

  • This reply was modified 5 years ago by  amiona.
Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Akron, OH

I’m not married, but I’ve been in a similar situation as far as the lovey dovey stuff is concerned. I’ve been with my guy for 3.5 years and sometimes you really do have to be blunt about what you want, or they simply won’t get it. It can be frustrating because some guys might say that they don’t like being told what to do, but some guys will say they’re not sure what to do for you unless you tell them. In my experience, guys and girls can get easily caught up with the daily struggles of life. Having a life partner means you expect them to be there through the good times, and bad. It could be that he has taken you for granted and just assumes that since he has you, he no longer has to try to impress you. It’s very hard for men to be romantic when they have so many other things on their minds. It’s not to say that he has a valid excuse for it, but perhaps you could try doing nice things for him and seeing if he reciprocates. My guy once told me that men like big gestures once in a blue moon, where women like small gestures all of the time. So consider that men and women are always on different levels and will always want different things. If you’re doing nice things for him that you probably care about more than him (laundry, cooking, cleaning etc) then he won’t learn to appreciate those things because they’re not a large concern him. By doing these things he will learn to expect them from you. Try getting him tickets to a game, or a concert, or buying him something for his game system. By showing him that you have a genuine interest in who he is and what he does, he will show the same respect for you. Hope this helps. (Personal Experience). 

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