(Closed) How do others feel about my sister in law's behaviour? How should i deal with it

posted 1 year ago in Family
Post # 2
1869 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Why are you so obsessed with what your sister in law is doing/has done/might do? I think your preoccupation with her is quite strange. 

Tell you husband she can’t come and live with you if you get pregnant. Other than that stop obsessing about her. You don’t like her, that’s fine. You don’t have to host her in your home or follow her on social media. 

Post # 3
9044 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

This again?

I have zero to say about your SIL’s behaviour except it seems like she is living her life.

However your behaviour in this and your other posts about this sister have been judgemental, bigoted, slut shaming and pretty vile.

Also your attitude towards your husband is pretty horrid as well. Instead of tellng your parents not to give a gift for his father, who he has no contact with and doesn’t wish to, you instead you let them force him into horrible situation and one that was emotionally upsetting to him. 

You need therapy and to learn to mind your own business. You contacted her ex boyfriend, that is stalker behaviour.

Post # 7
3286 posts
Sugar bee

You are obsessed with her, and it is unhealthy. Get a therapist and then discuss your concerns about her living with you all with your husband. Otherwise, it is of no concern of yours if she moves to Australia.

Also, stop meddling in her life and slut shaming her. Reaching out to her ex is beyond intrusive. Get a grip.

Post # 10
126 posts
Blushing bee

Say she can’t live with you. That’s it. End of issue. You don’t even know if you’ll be asked! You’ve done all this based on a distant maybe.

Contacting her ex is strange and so what if she went out while visiting? Was she meant to stay with you lot 24hrs a day for 3 months? Sounds to me like the had fun exploring a new city. 

Your obsession with her behaviour is strange and I agree that blaming your husband for his reaction to the gift was cruel, you should have told your parents not to give it as it would be inappropriate 

Post # 11
2706 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Be very clear with your husband that she can’t live with you, and you won’t support her (and if he does, it will be grounds for divorce).  Then let it go.  You’re unhealthily obsessed with her.  She’s not your problem, provided she’s not living with you or being supported by you or your husband.

Post # 12
3286 posts
Sugar bee

lilly1 :  no, because my husband and I communicate well. This would have been discussed and agreed upon long ago.

Post # 13
1555 posts
Bumble bee

lilly1 :  everything you’re worrying about is completely hypothetical. Let your SIL live her life, it’s nothing to do with you. If she wants to come live with you at some undetermined time in the future if you potentially get pregnant, just say no. It’s that easy. 

Post # 15
3286 posts
Sugar bee

You are meddling. Just stop. Go talk to a therapist. 

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