Post # 32
@Ms_Smitten: Hmm, well it seems like there is sort of a base “wedding” amount of license, photogrpaher, dress, etc which cost the same whether you have 8 or 80 people at the wedding. I’d guess the only way to get an eight person wedding to be cheaper would be to cut out some of these things, but if you want them, then keep them, and don’t worry about the total. It’s not really an equation of $5000/8 is it? It’s somewhat more than that.
I kind of understand where you are coming from in asking the question. I read about people’s budgets and see how they got all these deals, etc, etc and I wonder if maybe I didn’t do as good a job in getting deals? But this isn’t totally productive thinking. At every decision I tried to find the best deal that worked for us, and that is really the best I can do, so that’s the best for me! I was a bit shocked when I saw that my 60 person wedding is coming in at around $9K and sometimes I see larger guest lists for the same reported price. We have cut out some things which we didn’t see a need for and focussed on other things which we felt were more important, and so I feel it is at time to be at peace with my decisions and not worry about what other people are doing or spending.
Post # 33
@bebefly: Oh, I am not paying for four extra people. That is the approximate rate for myself, and my daughters for hair and make up including the cost of my trial.
I will definitely look into loblaws. Thanks!
Thats what I have been doing. I am sitting here thinking that I am nuts or something. Am I over budgeting? I mean I definitely wanted to come in under budget and that amount was just a guideline. It is really important to me that our ceremony be exactly what I want and that includes my dress. This might seem strange but I have gone though a lot of trials in the last 10 years or so and while I recognize that the wedding isn’t my marriage, I want to have this one day where things are as perfect as they can be without breaking the bank. I am going to suggest that he take his dad and get him dress pants, a shirt and a tie for the wedding. My dad can dress up or down in his suit it works well for everything.
Post # 34
@2dBride: You make some very valid points. It is very important to me that we are frugal but have the wedding we want. I don’t want it to cost more than it has to, but I also don’t want to go nuts getting rid of everything that I love about our plans for our day.
Post # 35
@Ms_Smitten: I certainly sympathize. We live in a high-cost area, and as a same-sex couple, had to have our wedding in a different high-cost area. And on occasion, I had people questioning whether ours was really a “budget” wedding. However, I am very strongly of the opinion that weddings are not a competitive event. We had a wedding that worked for us, at a price we could manage. The fact that others might be able to spend less was irrelevant.
Post # 36
@2dBride: Again, words of wisdom. I need to look at things differently, I think. Save where I can and just accept that somethings are going to cost more.
Post # 37
Watch for deals on sites like Groupon, Swarmjam etc. I posted yesterday about a tux rental for $22 at Balck and Lee.
They also regularly have deals on makeup- hair etc.
Post # 38
@Ms_Smitten: By the way, I think your budget numbers are pretty well on for what you describe in Canada. I think some areas of the US are definitely cheaper. I went down to the US to buy my dress at Davids and had to pay customs on the way back, so you’re fortunate that they have now opened up shop in Canada!
Also, I found some really good deals on accessories on ebay. I just looked for sellers who weren’t charging too much in shipping, etc. I got my necklace and earring set for $20, a hair band for $15, and a purse for $10, all new stuff and I love it. Because these were all small value purchases I didn’t get charged customs.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to have certain things for your day! Go for it.
Post # 39
The main thing I am seeing here that looks insane is the dress. I know you want a wedding dress and that’s cool, but an $1100 dress for a wedding with 8 people? I say do a Carrie Bradshaw and find a cute vintage dress or maybe a prom/bridesmaid dress instead. If you dont like that option, then maybe talk to a seamstress about having one made.
Like others have said, do wholesale flowers or go to a flower market and DIY your bouquet. Look at discount websites for the bridesmaid dresses or think outside the box and buy dresses from a store like Forever 21 or Charlotte Russe. You could also look for a student or for someone just starting out doing weddings for hair and makeup, because they would charge less.
Also…. Im kind of confused how food is going to be $500 for 8 people. KWIM? Does that include a wedding cake or something?
We had an approx. $20-$25k wedding for $10k. It’s all about being creative. Think outside the box. HAGGLE. I can’t stress that enough. HAGGLE your butt off. Also, troll craigslist, garage sales, ebay, discount websites, dollar stores, anything you can find to cut costs.
Post # 40
@bebefly: I love this! Thanks for sharing with us bees your breakdown.
I am in Canada and the prices are more set it seems and not as much competetion here for lower prices, etc.
Post # 41
Venue – $510.00*
Ceremony Decor – $150.00 Set a budget and stick to it. Even $50 off is money in
Bride’s Dress, Accessories – $1100.00 *I still think you could lower this, but I left it alone… for now 😉
I would look for your David’s Bridal style number on preowned dress sites. That’s how I
scored my dream dress for 50% off.
Bridesmaids (x2) – $150.00 total. Check JC Penney online (they ship to Canada).
They have a lot of cute dresses for under $50. Pick out some jewelry and they’ll be set!
Food – $500.00 (we are going to a restaurant)
License – $145.00
Officant – $250.00*
Tuxes (Groom and his father) – $300.00
Bouquet – $65.00 This florist works for herself and is offering a 35% discount
Hair and Make up – $240 – Found this deal, $60 per person, on Craigslist Ontario:
*I included you, your 2 daughters, and your mom.
Photographer – $500 – found this special offer on Craigslist, too:
So that brought the estimated total to $3, 910.
Not too shabby 🙂
Post # 42
@Ms_Smitten: I’m having a 3500 dollar wedding for 125 people. You can do the same with eight people.
Post # 43
OK, so I am not a canada bride HOWEVER, you really can cut back in some areas. You can get a beautiful dress for alot less than 1100, and have you considered buying your girls dresses somewhere else to save money?
Post # 44
@helenberrycrunch: Can you share you breakdown?
Post # 45
@stefanieastronaut: Thanks! I found a dress on JC penny that I really liked for my oldest 🙂
The make up is for proms but I have inquired about their weddings
My bouquet is already pretty much taken care of now.
I found some hair accessories that I really like for around $20.00 so I am doing what you are and shopping ebay. I haven’t found jewelry yet.
I don’t want to pull a Carrie because I have never had the day where I can wear the beautiful dress. My Fiance has no issues with the budget and we know the wedding that we want and aren’t going to compromise on I just want to do it for LESS you know?
Post # 46
@helenberrycrunch: While that sounds fantastic, you are also in the USA. The prices and the way that people are willing to haggle are different in Canada it seems. What you can do for a ton less there, we can’t necessarily do here unfortunately.
I have yet to find a new wedding gown for under $500.00 with the exception of Davids Bridal and I don’t like their less expensive dresses. I am willing to pay the extra and sell the gown following the wedding.