(Closed) how do u tell a friend…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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20 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

ik what you mean by not wanting negative people at your wedding. And if she is truely one of your friends, then you would sit down with her and tell her whats on your mind! if you dont tell her then she will be having a negative additude at your wedding, or bringing some new guy.

Post # 4
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668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

  1. What do you think she thinks she will accomplish by going on a date with some other guy?

    It sounds like she is pretty fickle about relationships, but I don’t know if that should factor in to whether or not she is still invited to your wedding? You can’t really judge people’s worthiness of attending YOUR wedding based on how they behave in THEIR lives, distasteful as that may be. You can’t really UNinvite someone. You’ve invited, they’ve accepted.

    Keep suggesting they go to counselling, or maybe introduce her to WB so that she can vent her frustrations here instead of with you? Maybe that’s all she’s doing and doesn’t really intend to cheat?

Post # 6
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7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If she’s a true friend she’ll be welcome at your wedding whoever she’s with. My brother was regularly changing gfs, and at the time of my wedding had just dumped his gf of 2-3 years, and brought one he’d been dating about a month. We survived.

Post # 8
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7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@auroraborealis:  My brother regularly cheats on gfs (and one wife) in the last few weeks/months of a relationship, before me moves on to the next one. He’s my brother and he was welcome with whoever his partner was at the time (even though he doesn’t seem to have a very high opinion of his marriage vows) – because he’s my brother,

Post # 9
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88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

a friend is a friend…I dont think her relationship drama reflects how she feels about you. If anything, it sounds as if she is being a bit needy, and you are just kinda burnt out on dealing with it. She may even be contacting you, as she thinks you are someone who knows how to make a relationship work. That being said, it is ok to say “I have a lot going on with the planning, I will be in a better space to give you advice when this is all over” A lot of times those ppl settle down when they dont have a drama audience. 

Post # 11
Member
327 posts
Helper bee

only tell her your opinion if she ask you to. if not, don’t bother. of course, you should still invite her to your wedding.

Post # 12
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16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I’m closing this thread at the request of the OP.

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